agree...but your addition was/and at times still is one of my problemsQuote:
Originally Posted by Shekhar
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agree...but your addition was/and at times still is one of my problemsQuote:
Originally Posted by Shekhar
Yeah, Shekhar and Q, gotta agree with you guys.
Have myself regretted many times for the things that I didnt do; but could have done. All those lost opportunities...
Though, I dont quite remember regretting anything for what I have done. :wink: :wink:
I am sorry I didn't quite get you :? :? What is the problem :?:Quote:
Originally Posted by Querida
ratchasi,Quote:
Originally Posted by a.ratchasi
There are sins of commission and sins of omission..
Sins of omission are those we regret for not doing something..
But sins of commission are obviously enjoyable, otherwise we wouldn't have done it in the first place... :lol: :lol:
Difference between doing something good and doing something sinful:
Good - You feel lousy while doing it, but feel good for quite a while after the act.
Sin - You feel good (enjoy) while doing it, but feel lousy for quite a while after the act.
i meant i agreed about how good ratchasi's post was and i find that i have that same problem with shyness...which was your addition no?Quote:
Originally Posted by Shekhar
:idea: Yea.. I got it :!:
ROSE
The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know.. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder.
I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?"
I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze.
"Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked.
She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids..."
"No seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.
"I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!"she told me.
After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake.
We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.
Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went.
She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.
At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football
banquet.
I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor.
Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."
As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing.
There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.
We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it! There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.
Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability.
The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets. The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.
She concluded her speech by courageously singing "The Rose."
She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.
At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.
One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.
Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.
:D THIS IS THE BEST SITE IN THE ENTIRE HUB, ISN'T IT GUYS?????
So much food for thought, that I'm getting off with a bounce in my steps to face yet another day........
Thank you all!!
Reminds me of a beautiful poetry by KavippErarasu Vairamuththu !!Quote:
Originally Posted by a.ratchasi
Nice !! Thanks AR :DQuote:
Originally Posted by a.ratchasi
Wow!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by NM
Great!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by NM
Both "We might as well dance' and 'Rose' have been added to my personal collections!! Thanks to AR and NM !! :D
NM,
Nice touching little story! :D
Happiness is a Journey not a destination
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are. After that we are frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation when we retire. The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy that right now. If not now when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. One of my favorite quotes come from Alfred D Souza. He said “for a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin- real life. But there was always some obstacles in the way. Something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles are my life”.
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time...and remember time waits for no one.
So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink, until you’ve sobered up, until you die to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.. Happiness is a journey NOT a destination!!!
NIROSHA........agreed ...this site is the best...with Nov's, Roshan's, Querida's, Shekhar's & AR's contributions.....but....your Annamalai part 2 is most interesting!! :clap:Quote:
Originally Posted by nirosha sen
SURYA : Thank you...yes, very touching, isn't it?? :cry:
ROSHAN.....: Thank you.......even if I die today, you'll still have my contribution in yr personal file tho' am not ROSE..... :D
And, that was beautiful, Happiness is a journey and not a destination.......I hv done a lot of "waiting" and have lost good friends/times permanently..... :cry: :cry:
Roshan and NM :)
Very touching narrations. I felt very contented to read 'Rose' and was worried at all silly things I have been yearning for in life. :oops:
We all do, don't we, Scorpio?? :cry:Quote:
Originally Posted by scorpio
I'm gonna keep coming back in here, everytime I'm blue!! :(
Thanks friends!! :D
Nirsoha..U are welcome, you know.., anytime! :DQuote:
Originally Posted by nirosha sen
Roshan,
Your post 'Happiness is a journey' is excellent. No wonder you are always so happy and smiling, and has managed to keep anger and meanness at a distance.
Just to go a bit deeper on what you have posted....
In Indian philosophy, there are two different concepts.. "Santosha" and "Ananda" ( I am using the word Indian deliberately because the concept exists both in Hinduism and in Budhism).
Santosha is happiness. But there is no english equivalent for 'Ananda', because the concept does not exist in western thoughts.
Santosha or happiness is temporary.. the kind you get, say when you eat nice ice cream.. or when you hug the person you love.
Whereas, Ananda is a state of being, you achieve training yourself over a long period of time. You feel 'happy' (Joyfully peaceful +contented) just to 'be', for no apparant reason, unaffected by the ups and downs of material world.
It is something akin to feeling of health. You realise when you don't have it. And a person who has not experienced excellent health doesnot know what it is..
So it is what you are.. not what you aim to get..
A FULL GLASS OF MILK
One day, a poor boy who was selling goods from door to door to pay for his hungry stomach, decided he would ask for a meal at the next house.
On the way through school, he found he had only one thin dime left and he was very hungry.
However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door.
Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water. The woman thought he looked hungry, so brought him a large glass of milk.
He drank it slowly, and then asked, "How much do I owe you?"
"You don't owe me anything," she replied. "Mother has taught us, never to accept pay for a kindness."
He said....."Then I thank you from my heart."
Years later that young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where they called in specialists to study her rare disease.
Dr. Howard Kelly was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town she came from, a strange light filled his eyes. Immediately he rose and went down the hall of the hospital to her room.
Dressed in his doctor's gown he went in to see her. He recognized her at once. He went back to the consultation room determined to do his best to save her life. From that day he gave special attention to the case.
After a long struggle, the battle was won. Dr. Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it, then wrote something on the edge and the bill was sent to her room.
The woman feared opening it, for she was sure it would take the rest of her life to pay for it all. Finally she looked, and something caught her attention on the side of the bill.
She read these words....."Paid in full with one glass of milk." Signed, Dr. Howard Kelly.
Tears of joy flooded her eyes as her happy heart prayed: Thank You,God, that Your love has spread abroad through human hearts and hands."
NM,
Though I've read this before elsewhere, you've filled my eyes with tears!!
Dear scorpio.....these kind of things always do....i've tears inmy eye severytime I read this and some of the ones posted here in this thread... :cry: :cry:Quote:
Originally Posted by scorpio
On a flight from Johannesburg, a middle-aged, well-off white South African Lady has found herself sitting next to a black man. She called the cabin crew attendant over to complain about her seating.
"What seems to be the problem Madam?" asked the attendant.
"Can't you see?" she said, " You've sat me next to a kafir. I can't possibly sit next to this disgusting human. Find me another seat!"
"Please calm down, Madam." the stewardess replied. "The flight is very full today, but I'll tell you what I'll do - I'll go and check to see if we have any seats available in club or first class."
The woman cocks a snooty look at the outraged black man beside her (not to mention many of the surrounding passengers).
A few minutes later the stewardess returns with the good news, which she delivers to the lady, who cannot help but look at the people around her with a smug and self-satisfied grin:
"Madam, unfortunately, as I suspected, economy is full. I've spoken to the cabin services director, and club is also full. However, we do have one seat in first class."
Before the lady has a chance to answer, the stewardess continues...
"It is most extraordinary to make this kind of upgrade, however, and I have had to get special permission from the captain. But, given the circumstances, the captain felt that it was outrageous that someone should be forced to sit next such an obnoxious person."
Having said that, the stewardess turned to the black man sitting next to the lady, and said:
"So if you'd like to get your things, sir, I have your seat ready for you..."
At which point, apparently the surrounding passengers stood and gave a standing ovation while the black man walked up to the front of the plane...
My dear scorpio.....shouldn't this be in the joke section?? :lol: :lol: :lol: anyway, it was a good one!!
NM,
I thought the story had a better message than just humour.. hence put it here! 8)
Great,Great Nm and Scorpio,these little stories make you feel there is goodness left in this world.I feel better after reading those,given that I had to settle some things with a fellow in two other threads. :)
Blah Blah...good to be of use, at last !!! :lol: :lol:
NM,
'A full glass of milk' brought tears to my eyes too !!!
That was lovely. Thanks and post more !
Shekhar,
Thanks for your thought provoking post !!
NM,
Your post "Full glass of milk" reminded me one of those quotes I like most. Let me post it now;
I expect to pass this world
but once
Therefore any good thing I can do or
any kindness that I can show
to a fellow human being
let me do it now
Let me not defer nor neglect it
for I shall not pass this way again
All...
I have really learnt a lot from this thread and a few others..
Will look out for more and share these with all of you....through sharing, we find happiness, too... :wink: :wink:
some words to live by......
ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk t o. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as Important as any other.
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
NINETEEN When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
Roshan..don't know how I missed that post!! Simple and sweet :thumbsup:Quote:
Originally Posted by Roshan
NM,
I have the same thing in my collection but there are a few more in addition to what you've given.
TWENTY TWO - Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
TWENTY THREE - Open arms to change but don't let go of your values.
TWENTY FOUR - Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
TWENTY FIVE - Live a good, honorable life, then when you get older and think back, you'll be able to enjoy it a second time.
TWENTY SIX - Loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
TWENTY SEVEN - In disagreements with the loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.
TWENTY EIGHT - Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
TWENTY NINE - Be gentle with the earth.
THIRTY - Once a year go somewhere you've never been before.
THIRY ONE - Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
THIRTY TWO - Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
Thanks NM. That's one of my favourites. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by NM
Thank you.. Scorpio, NM, Roshan for your beautiful posts.
Though, I decided many times not to visit FH due to over prevalent animosity, hubbers like you and your contributions always have brought me back.
A small story with very deep meaning..
A scorpion once wanted to cross a rivalet. It did not know swimming. So it requested a frog to carry it across on its back. Frog said " No I won't. because you will sting me and I will die".
Scorpion said " Don't worry, I won't sting you, because if I sting you I will also drown and die"
The frog agreed to carry the scorpion across the river. When the frog was midway, the scorpion stung the frog.
The frog was horrified at the unexpected attack and while drowning it asked the scorpion "Why did you do it.. I will die but you will also die along with me.."
Scorpion replied " I know it is not rational, but it is my nature to sting and I can't go against my nature".
People, with exception of a few enlightened, are like scorpions. They believe, it is their nature and they cannot change, and follow self destructive path.. They think, decide and act irrationally and destroy themselves.
Very True Shekhar!!!
and the most pathetic thing about it is that they say it out that they can never change and give many reasons for being so... without knowing that they are ruining their own wonderful time ahead...
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Originally Posted by scorpio
To the stewardess and to you Scorp!
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We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing.
We might as well dance...
Happiness is a journey... not a destination...
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NM, Roshan, AR, ....
These are real pearls dear friends.... and of course saved to my fav's and forwarding to all my contacts...
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Have you ever thought that when you are angy for a single minute, you are losing 60 seconds of happiness?