TIME FOR ROMANCE

[covaithamilan]

Hai everybody...i just joined in this forum a week ago.......i am trying for a new issue here....i think you will like this...

Most of us have a girl/boy friend.. and we are speaking with them for hours..plz if you have any ideas...plz share with us....it will help us everyone....

[dev]

kadalai poda ideas... Hmmm... what kind of ideas would U be requiring Mr.Tamilan???... Pls be precise...I'll try to help U out... :twisted:

[Bebeto]

Hai everybody...i just joined in this forum a week ago.......i am trying for a new issue here....i think you will like this...

Most of us have a girl/boy friend.. and we are speaking with them for hours..plz if you have any ideas...plz share with us....it will help us everyone....
All those have more than a girl/boy friend ought to keep out?
What Ideas do you mean? How to talk or what to talk?

[RC]

I dont have a girl friend.. :( Should I stay away from this thread too?

[Bebeto]

I dont have a girl friend.. :( Should I stay away from this thread too?
Why? Don't you have a supermarket in the neighbourhood?

Why don't you lend your neighbour's dog and try a walk in the park? :lol:

[Shakthiprabha.]

RC :lol:

I dont have a girlfriend too? Now what do I do :rotfl:

[Sanguine Sridhar]

kadalai poda ideas... Hmmm... what kind of ideas would U be requiring Mr.Tamilan???... Pls be precise...I'll try to help U out... :twisted:
Dev eppadi ippadi all rounder-a irrukeenga :lol:

[dev]

Ellam oru thiramai thaan... 8-)

[Lambretta]

Why don't you lend your neighbour's dog and try a walk in the park? :lol:
Lend?? :? U mean borrow??

[Lambretta]

RC :lol:
I dont have a girlfriend too? Now what do I do :rotfl:
Surely U don't want one?? :shock: :?
Wat wud ur poor hubby do then?! :lol:

[Shakthiprabha.]

hehe lambretta.

[buddysathi]

One FWD mail abt kadalai!

He calls She


She: Hello!
He: What the doing?
She: Ippo dhaan saaptu mudichen. Sir enna pannitu irukaaru?
He: Ippo dhaan 'Suttum vizhi sudare' paatu paathen Sun Music la
She: Nalla paatu.
(And then she hums the line 'mazhai azhagha veyil azhagha')
He: hey!!!!Nee ivlo nalla paaduviya
She: *giggles*
He: Hey. Innoru vaati paadaen
She: En room mates ellam thoongita. Ava bayandhuduva
He: Come on! Please!
She: Poada. I don't sing that well
He: It was really sweet. Please paaden
She: Enakku odd aa irukku da
He: Idhula ennama irukku. Nalla paadare.
She: Nee dhaan sollanum
He: Ippo paaduviya maatiya?
She: yaenda paduththare
He: Sigh! Ok
She: I don't have that great voice
He: hmmmm
She: Seri. Ivlo kaekkare. Unakaaga ore oru stanza paadaren
He: Great!!!!
She: Endha paatu paadatum?
He: Hmmmm. 'un perai sonnale' from dum dum dum?
She: Nice song. But enakku lyrics gnabagam illai
He: Chinna chinna aasai?
She: Illai indha paate paadaren
He: Cool
(She clears her throat, hums a line and then)
She: Illai vendaam. Am feeling very shy!
He: Paadu she paadu. Un isai endra inba veLLathil neendha odoadi vandha
ennai yemtradhe she. Paadu
She: Galatta panre paathiya
He: No no. Nee shy aa feel panre illaiya. Trying to make u cool
She: Hmmm
He: please paadaen
She: naaLaikku paadatumaaa?
He: Seri maa. Unakku eppadi thonaradho appadiye pannu
She: Hmmm
He: Good night
She: Good night


After a while She calls He


She: Thoonigitya
He: Illai ma. Match paathundu irundhen
She: Seri. Nee match paaru
He: Hey. Its ok. Pazhaya match dhaan.
She: Illai. Did u feel bad I didn't sing?
(Since it is a tricky question, He thinks for a while)
He: Bad appadinu solla maaten. But I want you to be comfortable first.
naaLaikku paadaren sonne illa. So me waiting
She sings 1 stanza from the song
He: Wow. Too good!
She: Poarum. I know how kevalam my voice is
He: Hey you really sing well.
She: Poada...Nee sollanume appadinu solre
He: Cha! Cha! Un voice nalla illaati naan ivlo kaekkave maaten
She: Hmmmm
He: Nee ivLo nalla paaduve enakku theriyaadhu
She: Hmmm! Seri good night
He: Good night!
She: Take care
He: You too
She: Nejamaave en voice nalla irundadhaa
He: Nejamma! Ofcourse.
She: Nee poi solre
He: Not at all. You sing very well
She: Hmmm. Ennamo solre. Good night.
He: Good Night!!


So after successfully wishing she 'good night' for the umpteenth time, our
He hangs up the phone ;-)

[RC]

buddysathi: idhu unga malarum ninaivugaL-aa? ;)

[Anoushka]

buddysathi :rotfl:

[Anoushka]

covaitamilan: I am reminded of the movie Azhagan.... the song Sangeetha swarangal...

[NM]

buddysathi : :lol: :lol: ithu based on experience-a?? :lol: :lol:

[Sanguine Sridhar]

:clap: :rotfl: Buddy

[buddysathi]

Nammaku experience ellam ella!! Verum " sevi gnanam" thaan!! Really, I dont have enuf patience to do these talks..

[buddysathi]

Namma style " HEY PAADREEEEEEEEEE"!!!

[Shakthiprabha.]

The one which was forwarded by buddysthi is nice.
Like anou said, REminds me azhgan song.

Considering ur unique style written later buddysathi, I WISH U ALL THE VERY BEST.

[covaithamilan]

Recently I went to Goa, when I told my Best Friend that I am going, first she scolded me after that nan samathanam panitan.

When i am leaving leaving I called her and said I am leaving today.....

for that she said ....ok have a nice time there and enjoy......

then i said" enamo theriala kaaila iruntha manasu barama iruku."

she got shocked and said "yen yenna achu..pokum pothu....ethavathu problema"

i said in a disappointed way "onum ella... en manasu 55 kilova thuukitu pokanum ella....atha nalathan"

[covaithamilan]

Recently I went to Goa, when I told my Best Friend that I am going, first she scolded me after that nan samathanam panitan.

When i am leaving leaving I called her and said I am leaving today.....

for that she said ....ok have a nice time there and enjoy......

then i said" enamo theriala kaaila iruntha manasu barama iruku."

she got shocked and said "yen yenna achu..pokum pothu....ethavathu problema"

i said in a disappointed way "onum ella... en manasu 55 kilova thuukitu pokanum ella....atha nalathan"

[Bebeto]

i said in a disappointed way "onum ella... en manasu 55 kilova thuukitu pokanum ella....atha nalathan"

And her height?

[covaithamilan]

enna veda 4 inch kami.........

[Bebeto]

Then she definitely suits you inside.

[malligai]

I dont have a girl friend.. :( Should I stay away from this thread too?

achOO paavam RC.. :cry:

why dont u try Bebeto's idea of a 'dog and a walk' in the park?? :lol:

[covaithamilan]

Bebeto......just onu pannu

valaiya veruchu podu.....kandipa oru meen sikum......sikanum.....athu vithi......

[Bebeto]

Bebeto......just onu pannu

valaiya veruchu podu.....kandipa oru meen sikum......sikanum.....athu vithi......
I use a hook and a bait. Much better than a net. With the right fish you get a good fighting. You'll never know if you can get it to the shore.

[Querida]

hmmm the way you go about catching such ppl sounds like all it is time pass to you? So nothing meaningful wanted? So just for dating nothing more? Or do you mean those who have g/f, b/f both? :P and are seriously in relationship which they hope/feel is the "one" ?

[RC]

I dont have a girl friend.. :( Should I stay away from this thread too?

achOO paavam RC.. :cry:

why dont u try Bebeto's idea of a 'dog and a walk' in the park?? :lol:

Malligai: I wanted to try the idea of walking the dog.. but my wife wouldnt allow me to.. :(

[rajraj]

Malligai: I wanted to try the idea of walking the dog.. but my wife wouldnt allow me to.. :(

RC: I think it is time for me to give 'you' a call ! :lol:

[covaithamilan]

excuse me friends.....

summma pesi pesia...namma time waste panrom....

Some useful ideas required.......athu ellorukum uthavum....

he he...ethu kooda oru pothu nala sevaithan...

[Shakthiprabha.]

hello mr.kovai,

The way uve communiacted (with all that 55 kg being carried) i supp u are good enough. Infact I guess u are good neough to GIVE IDEAS.

U can maintain that. I am sure if shez shrude enough she woudl understand. Though there are TOO many women species who weigh 55 kg!

[Querida]

it's odd because some people will speak of the most nonsense things but all that counts for them is that they get to speak to each other..like buddysathi version :wink:

i think you probably have done all this in your conversations?:

-get lost in "futureland" with the planning of wedding, which relatives they think hates them...which kinda means they don't really like them too :P, how many kids, names, where to live, job, future education blah blah blah

- talk about what they did that day, movies, news, some interesting new thing they learned, people they met,people they mutally know, wht to do next time they meet (when they're going to tell daddy/mummy dear or how they almost got caught :P )

-FIGHT, argue, call names, talk about each other's family/friends not so nicely (if you're the guy) remind yourself you better say you are wrong before you get your ear bitten off :twisted: :lol:

seriously if you do think this is what you usually speak of and think it's a waste then maybe you can make the effort to sing, or write poetry so your effort will not seem wasted :roll: :D

[Uthappam]

The best times for romance:

for men -- in the evenings
for women -- in the mornings

[Lambretta]

The best times for romance:

for men -- in the evenings
for women -- in the mornings
I thot it was netime for men & evenings for women! :wink: :lol:

[Idiappam]

they never can get it together! :?

[nilavupriyan]

excuse me friends.....

summma pesi pesia...namma time waste panrom....
Some useful ideas required.......athu ellorukum uthavum....

he he...ethu kooda oru pothu nala sevaithan...

En avasara padreenga.....unga figure engayum Odeeradhu...anga than irukkum!

Porumai .....nidhanam..adhudhan kadalai poda mudhal thagudhi!...

edhuvume pesama avanavan 1 mani neram moonchiya mattum paathutu irunkaanuga!....

[covaithamilan]

hai nilavupriyan.....avasaram ellam onnum elinga.....

just oru egarness than..... our beautiful idea kudutha nalllu irukumanu pathan......but ennur dry'ava iruku..............

[malligai]

valaiya veruchu podu.....kandipa oru meen sikum......sikanum.....athu vithi......

Covaithamilan,

Kovai Maanagarla irundhu post seiyareenga..idhu enna innum 'valai' 'meen' elaam pesitu...indha fileld-la irukara 'latest technology' elaam innum kathukalaiyaa?? :lol: :lol:

[rajraj]

malligai: By 'valai' he must have meant the 'net' in internet ! :)

[malligai]

Raj,

it looks like i am the one who is 'outdated' here.. :lol:

[xlntbarani]

:)

[Idiappam]

Raj,

it looks like i am the one who is 'outdated' here.. :lol:

And who dated-out you?

[malligai]

Idiappam,
:lol:

u would have made a good CIA officer... :wink:

[Idiappam]

Idiappam,
:lol:

u would have made a good CIA officer... :wink:

Oh, don't brand me that!

BTW, what is CIA? Something to do with romance?

[Shekhar]

I thought the best time for romance for men is the Office time!!! :wink: :lol:
Or could it be weekend meetings?!! :D :D

[Querida]

Idiappam CIA stands for Central Intelligence Agency:
http://www.cia.gov/cia/publications/factbook/

[Idiappam]

Idiappam CIA stands for Central Intelligence Agency:
http://www.cia.gov/cia/publications/factbook/

Ha! thanks Querida! I don't think Intelligence has anything to do with romance -- what do you say?

[selvakumar]

I don't know why the creator of this thread stopped with girl/boy friends alone and that too under the title TIME FOR ROMANCE..

Nothing about lover..(Will u do romance with your girl friend only?)

I have lot of friends who are girls. But they are not my lovers..

Definitly, the creator should have been more precise..

Otherwise it will be a confusion between lover and friend..

[Lambretta]

Nothing about lover..(Will u do romance with your girl friend only?)
No, if u r married u hav to do it w/ ur wife as well! :lol: Hmm.....looks like I cud take on after Shekhar in this hub (kidding! :P :lol: )


Otherwise it will be a confusion between lover and friend..
Um.....sorry I'm confused now......as per the title its abt lovers only.......how cud there be romance w/ a friend?? :?

[pavalamani pragasam]

Wrong connotations can possibly end in right closure of the thread!!!

[RC]

That is so true. Thiru indha pakkam thaan pOttoda suthikittu irukkaar..

[Querida]

Intelligence in romance?....hmmmm good question Idiappam...let's see if you're searching for it no (ie desperadoes..who actually forego intelligence in their search for a trophy)....but if it happens to you....no( cause *according to the old cliche...it just happens)....so yeah intelligence only comes when it comes to marriage...but who's smarter in that? :wink: :lol: :P

[Querida]

Lamby says:
No, if u r married u hav to do it w/ ur wife as well! :lol: Hmm.....looks like I cud take on after Shekhar in this hub (kidding! :P :lol: )

hmmm still not to par with our Shekhar Lamby :P ....it's because your wife doesn't want to do it with you that you have a girlfriend! :lol:

[Alien]

I don't know why the creator of this thread stopped with girl/boy friends alone and that too under the title TIME FOR ROMANCE..

Nothing about lover..(Will u do romance with your girl friend only?)

I have lot of friends who are girls. But they are not my lovers..

Definitly, the creator should have been more precise..

Otherwise it will be a confusion between lover and friend..
Nope, Selva ! Girlfriend/boyfriend exclusively means lover , atleast in caucasian way ! They don't use the word lover (I think its only used in India, Sri lanka........).................In a way thats rite too....Friend means both girls & boys ! The word "girlfriend" is not used to refer a "friend who is a girl" !
If the word "girl friend" is used then that means "lover" !....
So no confusions at all in the thread title :)

[Lambretta]

hmmm still not to par with our Shekhar Lamby :P ....it's because your wife doesn't want to do it with you that you have a girlfriend! :lol:
Actually I don't hav a wife (yet) or a GF (which I don't intend to hav neways!) :P
Wat I meant was taking on after Shekhar in his kind of humour! I don't think even he wud've seriously meant such a thing....! :lol:

[a.ratchasi]

Wrong connotations can possibly end in right closure of the thread!!!

:lol: :lol: Oh, PP maam!! :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

[Lambretta]

so yeah intelligence only comes when it comes to marriage...but who's smarter in that? :wink: :lol: :P
Whom do u expect to be smarter in today's marriage scenario (if referring to arranged marriage) tat is primarily based on the financial/social/professional status of the guy/girl.......?? :huh:

[Sanguine Sridhar]

I don't know why the creator of this thread stopped with girl/boy friends alone and that too under the title TIME FOR ROMANCE..

Nothing about lover..(Will u do romance with your girl friend only?)

I have lot of friends who are girls. But they are not my lovers..

Definitly, the creator should have been more precise..

Otherwise it will be a confusion between lover and friend..
Nope, Selva ! Girlfriend/boyfriend exclusively means lover , atleast in caucasian way ! They don't use the word lover (I think its only used in India, Sri lanka........).................In a way thats rite too....Friend means both girls & boys ! The word "girlfriend" is not used to refer a "friend who is a girl" !
If the word "girl friend" is used then that means "lover" !....
So no confusions at all in the thread title :)

Exactly we "confused cultured" Indians has confused more on this Girl/boy friend culture.When you ask a guy "You have a girl friend" the guy will reply has how Selvakumar has replied.

[Shakthiprabha.]

so yeah intelligence only comes when it comes to marriage...but who's smarter in that? :wink: :lol: :P
Whom do u expect to be smarter in today's marriage scenario (if referring to arranged marriage) tat is primarily based on the financial/social/professional status of the guy/girl.......?? :huh:


Funny. Marriage is just made to sound akin to barter system.

U take care of my needs
I take care of urs.... :(

Where doth love reside in these?

Its just made(coerced?) to grow, over a period of time(as we are left with no choice!), by which time, the couple gets too old to enjoy the youthful essense of innocent-love. :?

[Lambretta]

Funny. Marriage is just made to sound akin to barter system.
U take care of my needs
I take care of urs.... :(
Even most "needs" in today's scenario r actually materialistic wants & physical desires, wrongly categorised by today's confused society as "needs"! :roll: :(


Where doth love reside in these?
I don't even want to try getting an answer to this from today's gen.......altho they r relatively more fluent in English, this word apprently doesn't exist in most of their vocabulary!


by which time, the couple gets too old to enjoy the youthful essense of innocent-love. :?
Actually many a couple of today is far more worried abt getting too old to enjoy the youthful essence of not-so innocent physical satisfaction (= 3 letters)!

[ssanjinika]

Lamby..why so vehement??I am sure there are a lot of couples out here in todays generation who want and accept love for what it is .Couples who love doing simple things like just walking down a road in falling rain under one umbrella or sharing a hot cup of tea on a cold afternoon..or just watching a nice movie together.These are things which are made special because of the person they do these things with.There are a lot of friends I know who either want such things for themselves or treasure their relationship because they have these things.

[Shakthiprabha.]

I second ssajinika. Not all fall in that category. Love does not mean SEX to many of them. They still value certain things.

There are bad and good things in both these concepts. Somehow I always prefer GETTING TO KNOW bef marrying. (That getting to know can be a weekend time spent, chit-chats, movies, planning out future, sweet nothings, romantic gestures, career talks... JUST ANYTHING, to know othre peson better)

Arranged marriage is marrying a stranger. Does it not sound weird to marry someone, because he works as xyz in abc company, earns xxxx amout, and belongs to xxxx caste?

Some arranged marriages are fortunate enough to see real love over a period of time. I dont deny it. Not all though.

Just blindly having a love marriage, cause of physical attraction is even worse.

A balance should be struck.

I feel, a person should be given an opportunity to GET TO KNOW THE significant othre, before plunging into something WHICH WOULD COST life.

[Lambretta]

Lamby..why so vehement??I am sure there are a lot of couples out here in todays generation who want and accept love for what it is...
Sorry if I got a bit hot under the collar SS, SP........but today's increasingly materialistic/sensually-oriented lifestyle tat seems to be the "in" thing (also often repeatedly backed up by our sly media as "hot" news!) in our society has made me feel put down lately & made me nearly lose all hope in looking forward to an ideal family life tat I'd wanted in the 1st place (for which sum ppl. had even ridiculed me!) :(
Even come across a few guys who feel the same.....!


Arranged marriage is marrying a stranger. Does it not sound weird to marry someone, because he works as xyz in abc company, earns xxxx amout, and belongs to xxxx caste.
Precisely wat even I feel.......! :(
I jus hate the way they've turned out over the decades.......totally different from wat they originally were created for in the 1st place!

Oh, well......I reckon marrying the right person wud change my opinion (wud luv to be proved wrong in this regard!).....keeping my fingers crossed until then (or atleast trying to!)......

[malligai]

I am sure there are a lot of couples out here in todays generation who want and accept love for what it is .Couples who love doing simple things like just walking down a road in falling rain under one umbrella or sharing a hot cup of tea on a cold afternoon..or just watching a nice movie together.These are things which are made special because of the person they do these things with.There are a lot of friends I know who either want such things for themselves or treasure their relationship because they have these things.

WOW...feels like reading a Mills & Boon, or a Silhouette romance... :lol:

[malligai]

Idiappam CIA stands for Central Intelligence Agency:
http://www.cia.gov/cia/publications/factbook/

Ha! thanks Querida! I don't think Intelligence has anything to do with romance -- what do you say?

Idiappam,

Rightly said...:thumbsup:

Romance and intelligence does not go together...they r like 2 sides of a coin... :lol: :lol:

[ssanjinika]

Well Malligai Im sure such things dont happen in M&Bs :lol:.More sensual things seem to be the basis for most M&B romances from what Ive read :evil:

I guess then according to you romance is more physical than emotional huh? :roll:

[Shakthiprabha.]

I second ssajinika

(hehehe I always seem to do that. Nxt time I would get better words to say the same :lol: )

[malligai]

OOPSSS... Sanjinika & Shakthi... :) :)

[ssanjinika]

Oops!!!
Sorry for making you mad Malligai .My question was to have been taken on the lighter side..it was a rhetorical question and I really didnt expect an answer.Please dont take it in a serious manner..I def dont know you to make such remarks seriously!

[Shakthiprabha.]

malligai malligai relax :grin: Truce. peace. sorry.

Yes def m&b has more sensual descriptions than romantic ones. 50 - 50 atleast (the ones I read atleast)

anyway... I AM SURE ssajinika maent it in a lighter way.

:cheers: :smile:

[covaithamilan]

plz malligai..we need your presence here....i think the discussions is going fine...

[ssanjinika]

Continuing on the romance note...
What is the most romantic present given/received by you?

[Shakthiprabha.]

Continuing on the romance note...
What is the most romantic present given/received by you?


I remember, once I had casually mentioned to my then fiance, I relish mangai-pattani-sundal very much than the normal ones we make at home.

Once before our wedding, When I had gone along with my hus(fiance) to marina beach, I suppose he was lookin out to get me a packet of sundal, but there were no signs of any vendors anywhere near the eye-sight. (I did not even know he was lookin out to buy one)

On faintly hearing a sound somewhere FAR FAR AWAY, he immy got up and ran (in the beach sand!!) to get sundal. I was clueless as to why he excused himself or what he ran for.

5 mins later, panting and puffing he returned with a small packet of sundal. I was all moved and close to tears.

THE BEST ROMANTIC PRESENT I still cherish with fond memories :smile:

()

During the first birthday after our marirage my hus got me an ISCON KRISHNA picture, (as I am a krishna devotee) as a surprise. Added with it was a comment "UR Krishna just as naughty as u are". He is basically a quiet, soft spoken person. The Krishna pic, and the words attached along with my fav krishna WAS AGAIN THE BEST PRESENT I got.

()

I love ROSES as gesture to show care/affection or love.

Long long ago, so long ago, that nobody knows HOW LONG AGO, :lol: When I was doing my college first year, there was this person, boy rather, who was a year younger to me(in his 12th std) but still happen to be my good friend.

One fine day, he knocked at the door, with a sheepish look. As our conversation went on, he suddenly, took a single red rose from his pocket (all crushed by then :grin:) and offered to me and said "I just thought I could get this for u".

I was stunned, yet managed to gather my compose and just when I went to take it from him, he got down on his knees, to give me that rose.

That made me really shy, elated kinda felt like a princess in a fairy tale. :smile:

THAT WAS also one of the most romantic gifts I received :smile:

*************

Thats about receiving, most romantic present GIVEN by me is A CARD, DESGINED and DRAWN by me, with MY OWN POETRY SCRIBLLINGS, just for my better half.

[Sandeep]

//What is the most romantic present given/received by you?//

Silence.

[Shakthiprabha.]

//What is the most romantic present given/received by you?//

Silence.

And... ur answer is AWARD winning :clap: :smile:

[a.ratchasi]

//What is the most romantic present given/received by you?//

Silence.
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Sandeep, I could sense 'shekharism' here!! :lol:

[Sandeep]

//
"I just thought I could get this for u".

I was stunned, yet managed to gather my compose and just when I went to take it from him, he got down on his knees, to give me that rose.
//

Ayooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Ayayooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

:hammer: :hammer: :hammer:
:hammer: :hammer: :hammer:
:hammer: :hammer: :hammer: (Hammering reduces from 5 square to 3 square as per request from SP)

Nanam ketta valippan.

[Shakthiprabha.]

NaaNam ketta vaalipan?

What do u mean?! :roll: :hammer: :hammer:

He never did or said anything bad. Just a gesture of CARE/AFFECTION/LOVE or whatever shown in a nice, sweet, subtle way.

Why so much hammering ? :evil: :evil:

I would be left with no life after being beaten up so badly. :sad:

[Sandeep]

NaaNam ketta vaalipan?

What do u mean?! :roll: :hammer: :hammer:


I dont know an equally strong English translation. The closest I can come is "SHAMELESS BAFFON"



Why so much hammering ? :evil: :evil:

I would be left with no life after being beaten up so badly. :sad:


Not you, its for that 12th standard "boy" (valippan)

Thank God he did not drop his coat on mud for you to step on without dirtying your feet.

[Shakthiprabha.]

NaaNam ketta vaalipan?

What do u mean?! :roll: :hammer: :hammer:


I dont know an equally strong English translation. The closest I can come is "SHAMELESS BAFFON"


That poor guy, must be having his happy life somewhere. Why bash him? Please spare him.

Whats so shamless about a young boy, giving flowers to another girl, whom he likes, respects or cherishes as a friend OR whatever????

[Sandeep]

Nothing wrong in giving flowers but to get on knees like a shakespearean character. :roll:

Seems very very silly even for a 17 year old.

But well thats just my opinion and the fact that you felt like a princess makes him right. So considering your strong support for him I reduce the number of hammerings :)

But still to get on knees and all, too dramatic

[Shakthiprabha.]

:roll:

Well he did that and I should say I felt like a princess. :P

May be yeah he did read too much SHAKESPEARE dramas??

I felt it was cute, esp, in those days where such ENGLISH gestures were rare. :grin:

Sorry, I like a hasty fool misunderstood ur post to mean, 'ITS TOTALLY WRONG TO give flowers for an unmarried girl acc to tamizh panpaadu. :sad:


the fact that you felt like a princess makes him right. So considering your strong support for him I reduce the number of hammerings :)

:lol: :lol: :lol:

[Lambretta]

What is the most romantic present given/received by you?
Given: Umm.....afa I can rem.....none (yet!) :roll: :?
Received: Not perhaps the most romantic but poss' the only romantic one I rem.- a love letter, from one o my students for spoken english, very recently!
However, I din't hav similar feelings towards her nor thot it approp. to tell her so plainly (afraid to hurt her) so my answer was ignoring the incident......I guess she got the msg. tho.....!


I remember, once I had casually mentioned to my then fiance, I relish mangai-pattani-sundal very much than the normal ones we make at home.
Once before our wedding, When I had gone along with my hus(fiance) to marina beach, I suppose he was lookin out to get me a packet of sundal, but there were no signs of any vendors anywhere near the eye-sight. (I did not even know he was lookin out to buy one)
On faintly hearing a sound somewhere FAR FAR AWAY, he immy got up and ran (in the beach sand!!) to get sundal. I was clueless as to why he excused himself or what he ran for.
5 mins later, panting and puffing he returned with a small packet of sundal. I was all moved and close to tears.

THE BEST ROMANTIC PRESENT I still cherish with fond memories :smile:
Aww.............now isn't tat sweet! :D Wud move me to tears too I guess.......! Wondra-full I sayyy! :wink: :D :clap:


I love ROSES as gesture to show care/affection or love.
Well I do love them too.....but had wanted a wife who wore a rose in her hair (as they did in the '60s/70s when long braided hair was the trend), as I thot tat looked MUCH better than holding it in ur hand.....:)
But more than tat, I love Malligai (I mean the FLOWER, ie, Jasmine!).....I like its frangrance more so wish my wife wud share the same interest & (genuinely) like to wear them in her hair..........*sighhhhhhh*......only 'hope such women don't become obsolete (like my scooter!) by the time I can get married.....:(


Long long ago, so long ago, that nobody knows HOW LONG AGO, :lol: When I was doing my college first year,
Are u so old tat u can't even rem. how long ago tat was??!! :wink: :P :rotfl: (KIDDING, sorry!! :notworthy: :D)......

[Shakthiprabha.]

yeah lambretta, flower wearing women are becoming rare. :smile:

How old was that? around 15 years back :smile:

[ssanjinika]

Welcome back Lamby.Did you have a nice time in Hyd?

To answer my own post...

My last years b'day was the best ever coz I got the best ever gift from my husband.
My last b'day dawned bright and clear(My b'day is in Nov and theres always chance of rain/snow).It was morning and I was busy getting lunch ready for my husband.My husband is all ready and then came into the kitchen and asked me to get ready.He told me he had a suprise for me and just asked me to get dressed and go and sit in the car.I did as he asked and then we started driving..He wouldnt tell me where we were going..just kept driving.By this time my curiosity was killing me..but I kind of started getting an inkling when we were on the road for about 2 hours.You see I love the mountains.My dream is when I retire I want to get a small cabin /house in one of the hill stations in India and spend my days readin books,watching movies and taking long walks with my husband.
Yes my husband had booked a cabin for the weekend in a remote moutain resort.Since it was off season there werent many people there.Just the permanant residents of the town.He had packed our bags the night before after I went to sleep.The weekend was beautiful and perfect.It was like catching a glimpse of our retired lives.
(In case I forgot to mention..it so happened that my b'day fell on a friday last year)
It was def the most romantic gift I received. :)

[Lambretta]

yeah lambretta, flower wearing women are becoming rare. :smile:
Yeah true....! :( :cry: But HOPEFULLY not as rare as Lambrettas!


How old was that? around 15 years back :smile:
Actually I did sort of guess tat as I rem. u saying in the IF secn. tat u'd been a toddler when Kamal H acted in his first film (circa early '70s).....so thot u'd be around my sis's age (born in '73)! :D

[Shakthiprabha.]

I am 71 born.

lambretta, Flowre wearing women ARE NOT THAT RARE.

Yes, I dont think u are rare too. There are many like u, who still cherish 70z or 80z style of living. :smile:

Sanjinika,

thats very cute. :smile:

[Lambretta]

Welcome back Lamby.Did you have a nice time in Hyd?
Tks, Yup I did! Spotted a few old cars/lots of old scooters still around, altho not my fav. models! :) I really miss living there now tho......!


My dream is when I retire I want to get a small cabin /house in one of the hill stations in India and spend my days readin books,watching movies and taking long walks with my husband.
So do u plan to hav a Herald as well then, like ur parents did??! Altho atthe malai melai ota mudiyma illeya sollamudiyathu! :wink: (kidding again!- sorry, whenever I get a post from u, I can't help thinkin abt tat car! :lol: )


It was def the most romantic gift I received. :)
I hope it wasn't the most expensive one ur hubby had given tho! :wink: :lol:

[Lambretta]

I am 71 born.
Awww........wish I was too! 10 yrs late! :(


lambretta, Flowre wearing women ARE NOT THAT RARE.
Yea, not in the villages atleast (tats wat many've told me now)......oh, well.....wll worry abt tat when the time comes!


Yes, I dont think u are rare too. There are many like u, who still cherish 70z or 80z style of living. :smile:
:lol: No no, when I said "Lambrettas" I meant the Lambretta scooters (http://www.fanaticscooters.co.uk/images/james/james1.JPG)! :D

[ssanjinika]

Thanks SP,

Lamby : trust u to bring herald into the picture..:lol:

And nope..didnt I say it was off season ;) :lol:

[Sanguine Sridhar]

I am 71 born.

lambretta, Flowre wearing women ARE NOT THAT RARE.

Yes, I dont think u are rare too. There are many like u, who still cherish 70z or 80z style of living. :smile:

Sanjinika,

thats very cute. :smile:

In your dreams KM? ;) I heared that you did an active participation in Gandhiji's dandi yaatra :?

[Shakthiprabha.]

Beckham. :hammer: :hammer:

anyway right u are... :P My hands even shake because of old age when I post opinions here :lol:

[covaithamilan]

it seems some interesting to read the happy moments in their like Shakthiprabha's hub get to buy sundal for her..................

[Shakthiprabha.]

hehe...

'Thengai-Mangai-PattaNi-Sundal' :grin:

I love that cry of sundal vendors esp in beaches, right from my childhoood.

Sad after TSUNAMI I dread to go near beaches :shock: :sad:

[Sanguine Sridhar]

hehe...

'Thengai-Mangai-PattaNi-Sundal' :grin:

I love that cry of sundal vendors esp in beaches, right from my childhoood.Sad after TSUNAMI I dread to go near beaches :shock: :sad:

Is it so KM...How many years of experience u have :wink: What is your strike rate, like how many packets u sold in u're childhood and now :?

[Shakthiprabha.]

Beckham, I THOUGHT I said,

I LOVE THE CRY OF SUNDAL

not

I LOVE TO CRY 'THENGAI MANGAI SUNDAL'

:huh:

[Lambretta]

Beckham, I THOUGHT I said,

I LOVE THE CRY OF SUNDAL
Nope, u said I LOVE THAT CRY OF SUNDAL....... :wink: :D

[Shakthiprabha.]

:lol: sorry slip of fingers (typing) :lol:

[goodsense]

"TIME FOR ROMANCE"

You bet I am looking forward to this in the new year while I also plan to work harder in moving forward in strides. Remember my plans to help those poor kids in "G"?

So don't be surprise if I am not here as frequent as before.

In my search for romance this is one of the things I found:

Indian Gemini Male: 43, 5'6", 145lbs
Looking guyanese or trini woman who like to have real fun/romance/candlelight kisses n hug...while we r cudleing in jakuzzitub with lots of bubble water.yeh i can say i never had any trini or guyanes woman because i am from bombay india (mumbai).
looking for friendship n much more.email me thanx
Hometown: sweetnsxy
Reply to: New York


ref: http://www.toronto-lime.com/personals/personals_msw.htm

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Don't take me too serious.

*****************

HAPPY NEW YEAR

[goodsense]

Take it in any way and to what extent it suits you in light of last post :wink:

http://members.lycos.co.uk/mohdasgar/Guyana.html

Make sure you click on Terry Gajraj's picture.

[goodsense]

Contribution of some of my favourites to this Romance thread:

Steps:

1) Click on this: http://members.lycos.co.uk/mohdasgar/Guyana.html

*Roses Are Red; Put Your Sweet Lips;
It's Now Or Never etc.

2) Click on T. Gajaj;

3) Click on "albums";

4) Click on "sweet love songs".

Then go to album again and click on ""Guyana baboo", then on number "3" - Lilawattie. There are lots of clues here.

Enjoy.

[Bärlin]

Urme and goodsense? does not go! If yes, then all the physics, chemistry and biology went wrong :lol:

[goodsense]

May be your are right and perhaps its time to find out more about this Essequibo (Cinderella County) gal. Truth will be found in comparing the past and present. And yes, I am a true sentimentalist.

But mods may think we are misusing the thread.

[Bärlin]

But mods may think we are misusing the thread.

I don't think that mods can think :lol: else why they delete without thinking?

[goodsense]

Most of the English songs on the album referred to, can be heard on Friday and Saturday nights at a place call "The Capitol".

I highly recommend this place. It's a clean mature crowd that goes there and most are professionals. The mix is also good, from Whites, to Pak to Indian (East and West), few Black and Chinese. The atmosphere is also great and I am sure if you are with your lover, you will have a great time - sole away through the night. I still have some fun with my friends whenever I go there, although never went with anyone special. Here is the website:

http://www.capitolbanquetcentre.com/

[goodsense]

My God! Why did everyone go. Come on we all need social lives.
I did declare my identity from the outset, didn't I :roll: . Just try to re-collect, that I select all the things I like ...And my God, I have only been there three times, the last of which was on my birthday celebrations last May.

In this way before you know it, the "romance tree" will fall :wink: :lol:

OK. Terry Gajraj and the Supertones band will be here for Valentines, so I will change my venue :P

http://members.lycos.co.uk/mohdasgar/Guyana.html

Check out "tours" section. Follow previous instructions to get there.

[goodsense]

Well, sometime me too feel like going and live in "Kailash" and get away from all of this. As my spiritual master often says, "The same things that give us pleasure, give us pain". So what's the point? It's probably best to stay "detached" afterall :( .

[pooja.shankar]

kadalai poda ideas... Hmmm... what kind of ideas would U be requiring Mr.Tamilan???... Pls be precise...I'll try to help U out... :twisted:
KADALAI PODA IDEAS NA ENNA

[great]

kadalai poda ideas... Hmmm... what kind of ideas would U be requiring Mr.Tamilan???... Pls be precise...I'll try to help U out... :twisted:
KADALAI PODA IDEAS NA ENNA :lol: :lol: :lol:

[dev]

kadalai poda ideas... Hmmm... what kind of ideas would U be requiring Mr.Tamilan???... Pls be precise...I'll try to help U out... :twisted:
KADALAI PODA IDEAS NA ENNA

Appadi podu... I'm having real fun in the hub today...

Pooja, ask any tamil speaking(or atleast someone who can understand tamil) college(even high school) student... They'll give U hrs of lecture on the subject... :lol:

[pooja.shankar]

hmm .....niceconvo..buddy sathy ..was tht ur personal experience ...

[Alien]

kadalai poda ideas... Hmmm... what kind of ideas would U be requiring Mr.Tamilan???... Pls be precise...I'll try to help U out... :twisted:
KADALAI PODA IDEAS NA ENNA :lol: :lol: :lol:
:lol: :lol:

[pooja.shankar]

kadalai poda ideas... Hmmm... what kind of ideas would U be requiring Mr.Tamilan???... Pls be precise...I'll try to help U out... :twisted:
KADALAI PODA IDEAS NA ENNA

Appadi podu... I'm having real fun in the hub today...

Pooja, ask any tamil speaking(or atleast someone who can understand tamil) college(even high school) student... They'll give U hrs of lecture on the subject... :lol:

ey ...please pa ...i have been brought up in the middle east. .i have been here all my years .....and i speak tamil nevertheless......but the tamil i know is wat one speaks at home ....considering ur remarks i figure out that its some dirty thing ....and certainly u cant expect me to know that word ..coz my parents wunt be talking about that ...LOL....

and by the way ...by may 2006 i ll be in madras and i ll be there for my college ..ie for 3 years. ....so i got to know all this .OR get ragged......please man ..help me out ...wat about a private message ......


now this is going to be the most enjoyable thing u guys are going to do ...reply to this message and rag the hell out of me...!!!!!!! :cry:

[RC]

When you are in Chennai.. that too for your college.. you'll certainly get to know about kadalai.. Who knows.. you could be involved in kadalai :)

[pooja.shankar]

When you are in Chennai.. that too for your college.. you'll certainly get to know about kadalai.. Who knows.. you could be involved in kadalai :)

is it flirting ???????????.............

i speak tamil people ..normal laymans tamil ...not this hi fi ..ok ...


IF SOME1 IS NOT GOING TO TELL ME THIS ..I THINK I LL START A NEW THEARD .ASKING FOR STUPID MEANINGS :oops:

[great]

When you are in Chennai.. that too for your college.. you'll certainly get to know about kadalai.. Who knows.. you could be involved in kadalai :)

is it flirting ???????????.............

i speak tamil people ..normal laymans tamil ...not this hi fi ..ok ...


IF SOME1 IS NOT GOING TO TELL ME THIS ..I THINK I LL START A NEW THEARD .ASKING FOR STUPID MEANINGS :oops: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

[ssanjinika]

When you are in Chennai.. that too for your college.. you'll certainly get to know about kadalai.. Who knows.. you could be involved in kadalai :)

is it flirting ???????????.............

i speak tamil people ..normal laymans tamil ...not this hi fi ..ok ...


IF SOME1 IS NOT GOING TO TELL ME THIS ..I THINK I LL START A NEW THEARD .ASKING FOR STUPID MEANINGS :oops:

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
GOD!! This is fun!! :lol:

Kadalai pathi sure-a madras-la college ponnena therium.

[dev]

:) :) :) :) :)

[pooja.shankar]

kadalai poda ideas... Hmmm... what kind of ideas would U be requiring Mr.Tamilan???... Pls be precise...I'll try to help U out... :twisted:
KADALAI PODA IDEAS NA ENNA

Appadi podu... I'm having real fun in the hub today...

Pooja, ask any tamil speaking(or atleast someone who can understand tamil) college(even high school) student... They'll give U hrs of lecture on the subject... :lol:

OK I GOT HELP ...I KNW WAT IT IS lol...NO BIGDEAL..ITS NUTHING THAT BAS ...OK...?. ..U COULD HAVE TOLD ME ........THAT TO THAT HUBBER WHU HELPED ME OUT ( SECRET..)

[dev]

:)

[Shakthiprabha.]

Finally romance has burnt down to kadalai?

:roll:

[Sanguine Sridhar]

Finally romance has burnt down to kadalai?

:roll:
Kadalai is the first step to romance right? :?

[Shakthiprabha.]

hmm I disagree.

Kadalai is a nice step to DEVELOP GOOD FRIENDSHIP.

I think TALKIN TO A GIRL, is to develop friendship not romance :roll:

[Lambretta]

I think TALKIN TO A GIRL, is to develop friendship not romance :roll:
Hmm.........depends on how u talk I guess?! :wink: :lol:

[Sanguine Sridhar]

Freindship can turn into love 99.99% chances are there...Bet KM?? no more arguments please ;)

[pooja.shankar]

yo beckham .....thats a hot pic u ve got .........y dunt u put ur own pic ..i d like to see and compare it ...LOL...jus kidding ..nice pic ...

[RC]

Freindship can turn into love 99.99% chances are there...Bet KM?? no more arguments please ;)

anubavam pEsudhaa Becks? :)

[selvakumar]

hmm I disagree.

Kadalai is a nice step to DEVELOP GOOD FRIENDSHIP.

I think TALKIN TO A GIRL, is to develop friendship not romance :roll:


It depends on lot of factors. I talk with lot of girls in a funny way. If they are taking that as ROMANCE :huh:, it is not the mistake of selva / dada !! :D

[Lambretta]

It depends on lot of factors. I talk with lot of girls in a funny way. If they are taking that as ROMANCE :huh:, it is not the mistake of selva / dada !! :D
Seriya sonnenga Dada "ji"! :D
Altho, um.....I'd rather not ask wat u mean by funny way.....! :P

[selvakumar]

It depends on lot of factors. I talk with lot of girls in a funny way. If they are taking that as ROMANCE :huh:, it is not the mistake of selva / dada !! :D
Seriya sonnenga Dada "ji"! :D
Altho, um.....I'd rather not ask wat u mean by funny way.....! :P

Funny way - In girls' terms, in a way which will be appealing to them !! It cannot be explained with words. :D feelings !!

-- Love Dada

[Lambretta]

Funny way - In girls' terms, in a way which will be appealing to them !! It cannot be explained with words. :D feelings !!
-- Love Dada
Yea Dada, jus hope it doesn't make them see u as Dadaji! Surely u know the diff. between the 2! :P :lol:

[selvakumar]

Funny way - In girls' terms, in a way which will be appealing to them !! It cannot be explained with words. :D feelings !!
-- Love Dada
Yea Dada, jus hope it doesn't make them see u as Dadaji! Surely u know the diff. between the 2! :P :lol:


I know the meaning.. Lambretta :lol: that is Thathaji not DADA JI(the powerful). well. as far this thread is concerned, I want to remain as LOVE DADA (no ji - it was u who included it :lol:)

[Lambretta]

well. as far this thread is concerned, I want to remain as LOVE DADA (no ji - it was u who included it :lol:)
Macha, I added the 'ji' as a sign of respect to a gr8 dada like u! :notworthy: :lol:
I din't want it to be confused w/ Dadaji (Thatha), which is y i put the ji bit in quotations.....! :D

[selvakumar]

well. as far this thread is concerned, I want to remain as LOVE DADA (no ji - it was u who included it :lol:)
Macha, I added the 'ji' as a sign of respect to a gr8 dada like u! :notworthy: :lol:
I din't want it to be confused w/ Dadaji (Thatha), which is y i put the ji bit in quotations.....! :D


Machi :notworthy: :notworthy: :thumbsup: :cool: Lambretta !! :D

Thanx :D

[Shakthiprabha.]

Beckham,

Frinds can turn into love.

HOW MANY? :D

U talk to so many ppl belonging to opp sex. NOT ALL TURN INTO UR LOVER!

yET U TALK. kadalai or whatever term it is, IS FOR developing good friendship.

ONE OR FEW OF IT mature into love :P

[Sanguine Sridhar]

KM,
Regarding girls-guys friendship you have answered... Let a guy other than me can answer ;) now! But from the heart!!

[Lambretta]

Sri,
OK I agree w/ KM- sorry- SP! :D
I can say from my own expeirences in life, not all friendly interactions w/ the opp. sex cud turn into love.....yes not denying tat many of them do, but NOT all of them.....:)

[Sanguine Sridhar]

Lamby,
NOT - 0.01%
Atleast they would have crush over what you call your friend,girl friend or ... Appa! How many confusions?? I dont have any idea about girls but for guyz "Thozhi" Ellam summa...very very very rare!

[Shakthiprabha.]

BECKHAMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM

:shock: :evil: :roll:

I can tell u, i have had sooooooooooo many freinds, all close enough YET ONLY FREINDS :evil:

grow up beckham :huh:

[Lambretta]

Lamby,
NOT - 0.01%
Atleast they would have crush over what you call your friend,girl friend or ... Appa! How many confusions?? I dont have any idea about girls but for guyz "Thozhi" Ellam summa...very very very rare!
Hmm......yea in many cases guys can also hav a crush over sumone else acuainted/related to the person they 'befriend'.....
They may even befriend tat person w/ the intention of getting closer to the one they hav a crush on! :oops:
But I've never had this motive in my experience! :P :lol:

[Sanguine Sridhar]

BECKHAMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM

:shock: :evil: :roll:

I can tell u, i have had sooooooooooo many freinds, all close enough YET ONLY FREINDS :evil:

grow up beckham :huh:
Excuse! A guys perspective would be absolutely different!! Dont get confuse it with yours!

[Shakthiprabha.]

:roll:

They were my friends beckham. I am clever enough to realise any hesitation on anyone's part. :roll:

Do u ppl mean there can never be ANY PLATONIC RELATIONSHIP AT ALLLLLLLLLL??????

I cant buy that. defintely NO.

[Sanguine Sridhar]

Now this is a open challenge to all the Guys? Answer this from your heart! Have you ever had crush with your friend(Girl) .. Or Do u really think that there is a relationship called 'Thozhi' exist? I mean that this relationship with that girl should be as close as to a guy!

[goodsense]

God after yesterday having to stay in office late due to extra time on forum, thought I would say away for a while. But looking at your question, there is a bit of guilt not to respond.

I prefer and enjoy male friendships than females (may be this will change after marriage if that is in my planet. If you want to know the reasons for my preference, only ask, I have a long one). There is a variety of situations here, from pure friendship, to him or I wanting something more (I mean something closer), but it just can't be, so we stay friends. Some you speak to ofent, once in a while and for others, a year could pass. They say however, that there is no such thing as pure male/female friendship, there is always something more :P I don't really think so.

Yesterday I posted in the "aging thread", my experience about that "crush" thing and soon after I realized what I did, I deleted it and edited the pevious one. I hope not too many people saw it 8-)

[pavalamani pragasam]

Beckam, I agree with you!!! I am reminded of the song,"thozaa thozaa, kanavuth thoza" from "Paandavar boomi", a song that makes me gnash my teeth!!!

[Sandeep]

Now this is a open challenge to all the Guys? Do u really think that there is a relationship called 'Thozhi' exist?

Agree there is always an "element of romantic interest" when it comes to friendship with girls.


They say however, that there is no such thing as pure male/female friendship, there is always something more :P I don't really think so.


The "I" here is that of a woman. Let us see how many men share the same thought. As Bekham says "from the heart".

[Shakthiprabha.]

I prefer male friendship than female friendship, for reasons beyond me to understand, primary being

********I am comfortable with men********

I am I should say rarely comfortable with a woman at first stance. It takes time for me to get closer to her.

Atleast definitely the tag u are married, PUTS A BIG FULLSTOP to any other interest other than pure freindship.

[goodsense]

SP,

Common eh, prefer male friendships too :D

Just out of curiousity, were you always like that or it started at certain time in your life? For me, I hanged around only females up to high school, never spoke to boys before that. Interest in male friendships started really in my mid twenties :)

Only answer if you feel comfortable.

[Shakthiprabha.]

Goodsense,

Ive actualy had lots of girls as my friends.
Ive had comparitively little men/boys.

Only till my 5th class I was in co-education. I had lots of friends then.

LAter It was girls school and college
Strictly speaking I had very little male friend from my 5th standard until I finished college. (may be handful.....not more. Mainly neighbours, music class guys etc, sadly MANY WERE SHY to talk ..... :roll: ... so I could not get closer)

Given a chance, IN SCHOOL I FEEL I WUOLD HAVE HAD more boys as friends than girls . Since I did not go thro the exp, I cant talk bout it.

During instt days, I found, I am more comfortable iwth men (around 20 years). I had lots of acquaintances, SOME GOOD FRIENDS, ....

As the year went by, It just got confirmed I am comfy with men. I found my husband's friends seriously my very good friends, THAN THEIR WIVES :oops:

I found most of my friend's husbands were better off vibing with me than my friends. :oops: :roll:

May be it has a lot to do with ur attitude.

For example

I hate to shop
I hate to talk on jewellry
I hate to gossip
I am not fond of talkin about cookery etc
I am not happy when they ridicule ppl.

When men talk something other than these, though I MAY NOT BE UPDATED with their knowledge, I FEEL I CAN SIT AND LISTEN. I find that interesting. :)

Also one more important thing is, I CAN TAKE IT, if a man ridicules me, or puts my ego down. I CANNOT TAKE a woman putting me down :roll:

Thats the analysis Ive made :oops:

Till today it continues that I find men comfortable. (I am comfortable with MEN WHO ARE TALKATIVE, cool, FREE , definitely not shy )

If I find any man SHY :roll: , I rather prefer a female company to that :roll:

[Sanguine Sridhar]

So now what you are trying to say :?

[Shakthiprabha.]

Nothing. That was just a brief answer for goodsense's query. :roll:

[Sandeep]

"Nothing"

A typical female answer after an hour long lecture :lol:

[Shakthiprabha.]

:roll:

[Lambretta]

Nothing. That was just a brief answer for goodsense's query. :roll:
Which one do u say was brief?? The "Nothing" or the not-so-brief reply b4 tat?? :lol:

[goodsense]

My list of being apprehensive about females as I mature:

1. They like to compete (who looks better, who dresses better, copyng your hairstyle even and shopping for similar clothes, only that they wouldn't wear it when you are around);

2. try to go out with the same guy they very well know you might be interested in or have even gone out with before;

3. Guy's are better advisors;

4. Gossiping and causing conflicts;

5. Discourage you from your goals out of jealousy ........

6. Find it difficult to confide in a female


Having said that, I always think it's still good to have one or two good female friend, who is like a sister.

SP, you seems to have a very liberal husband and that only comes with trust and confidence. I wish for the same :)

[Lambretta]

SP, you seems to have a very liberal husband and that only comes with trust and confidence
Which evidently only comes w/ a wife who cud prove to be capable of creating tat much trust/confidence in her, as our SP happens to be! :clap: :D

[Shakthiprabha.]

My list of being apprehensive about females as I mature:

1. They like to compete (who looks better, who dresses better, copyng your hairstyle even and shopping for similar clothes, only that they wouldn't wear it when you are around);

:roll: tell me bout it :evil:


3. Guy's are better advisors;

:thumbsup: yup!! :)


4. Gossiping and causing conflicts;

yessssssssssssssss :evil: :evil: and I HATE GOSSIPS


5. Discourage you from your goals out of jealousy ........

yup :thumbsup: gone thro :)


6. Find it difficult to confide in a female

:thumbsup: yup.

also find, MEN understand a woman better.


Having said that, I always think it's still good to have one or two good female friend, who is like a sister.

:grin: how can we leave our folks out. I HAVE 3 TO 4 realllly good women friends. :) I consider them best. Most lovable :grin:


SP, you seems to have a very liberal husband and that only comes with trust and confidence. I wish for the same :)

I am very very very THANKFUL to god, for having got him. HE HAS UNDERSTOOD MY PULSE, HAS GREAT CONFIDENCE in me. :) Never once he would even have a shadow or distrust. :clap: Great guy indeed. :)

Goodsense,

I wish u get someone who TRUSTS U FOR THE WORLD :). Good luck.

lambretta,

:oops: :)

[dev]

During instt days, I found, I am more comfortable iwth men (around 20 years). I had lots of acquaintances, SOME GOOD FRIENDS, ....

As the year went by, It just got confirmed I am comfy with men. I found my husband's friends seriously my very good friends, THAN THEIR WIVES :oops:

May be it has a lot to do with ur attitude.

For example

I hate to shop
I hate to talk on jewellry
I hate to gossip
I am not fond of talkin about cookery etc
I am not happy when they ridicule ppl.

When men talk something other than these, though I MAY NOT BE UPDATED with their knowledge, I FEEL I CAN SIT AND LISTEN. I find that interesting. :)

Also one more important thing is, I CAN TAKE IT, if a man ridicules me, or puts my ego down. I CANNOT TAKE a woman putting me down :roll:

Thats the analysis Ive made :oops:

Till today it continues that I find men comfortable. (I am comfortable with MEN WHO ARE TALKATIVE, cool, FREE , definitely not shy )

If I find any man SHY :roll: , I rather prefer a female company to that :roll:

Aiyooo....SP, were U talking abt U or ME???!!!... I too fall into the same category...

I found myself being more comfortable with male than female right from my school days... the reasons being(in addition to those given by GS & SP) - most men are open-minded in any discussion ... most women get offended easily & if U don't agree with them on any of their views, they feel that U r against them rather than understanding that it's only their views that U disagree... Once u disagree with their views, they feel that U r bullying them & then the relatonship will never get thicker...

Above all these, I got to learn a lot from my male friends...abt latest technology, the economy, philosophy etc etc... their analysis abt things have always amazed me... Group study with guys has unfolded many different ways to learn things & many different perspectives on any topic... Learning with them has always been fun(not the serious group study tht girls used to do)... Guys have always been ready to teach U things that they know... Most girls r hesitant to teach U those they know for the fear of U becoming as knowledgeable as them... This will be very evident during school & college days...& definitely men are better advisors... emotionally more stable...

Another probable reason for me being comfortable with men is that I grew up in a joint family where I was the only girl child... So had been in the company of boys most of the time...

Reg Becks' bet that there can never be a 'only f'ship' betw' a male female... I've not felt anything more than f'ship with any of my close male friends except for one... I've always admired my friends(male & female) for what they are... But I don't think that admiration(though it can be easily misunderstood) can be called 'more than f'ship'... Anyways, it all depends on ones view on what friendship is & what is 'more than f'ship'...ie., where they have drawn their line betw' f'ship& love...

[Sanguine Sridhar]

Conclusion
Female can consider a guy as her friend but a man cant.I am 100% sure about that because i have seen many people.So girls a small warning for you dont go very deep rooted friendship with a guy it may turn into love.

[dev]

Conclusion
Female can consider a guy as her friend but a man cant.I am 100% sure about that because i have seen many people.So girls a small warning for you dont go very deep rooted friendship with a guy it may turn into love.

:shock: :shock: :shock: ... I still believe that not all guys consider his every single female friend as something more than f'ship... I don't think they are that very immature to fall in love with every other girl...

[pavalamani pragasam]

Beckam, :thumbsup:

[Shakthiprabha.]

Beckham,

:evil: :shock: So, EVERY MAN CONSIDER **EVERY** FEMALE FREIND OF HIS WITH SPECIAL FEELINGS IS IT? :evil:

Dev,

:thumbsup:

For a woman ARGUMENT means fight
For a man argument makes them open up with views.

and I LOVE TO ARGUE :D

[dev]

Dev,

:thumbsup:

For a woman ARGUMENT means fight
For a man argument makes them open up with views.


:) Very true, SP

& i feel that when men say something, u can take it at par value... But when women say something, they have lots of inner meaning... I hate beating around the bush...

Also, the opposite is true... when U say something to a male, they take it at par value but women assume lots of things to a simple statement...

[Shakthiprabha.]

:thumbsup:

dev,

I guess more we analyse more we PUT DOWN our folks .

:oops:

nevertheless EVERY WORD U SAID IS TRUE :D.

[dev]

dev,
I guess more we analyse more we PUT DOWN our folks .


True, SP... :oops:

[great]

Conclusion
Female can consider a guy as her friend but a man cant.I am 100% sure about that because i have seen many people.So girls a small warning for you dont go very deep rooted friendship with a guy it may turn into love.

becky, its not necessary guys will fall in love if they develop friendship :roll:

[Sanguine Sridhar]

Conclusion
Female can consider a guy as her friend but a man cant.I am 100% sure about that because i have seen many people.So girls a small warning for you dont go very deep rooted friendship with a guy it may turn into love.

:shock: :shock: :shock: ... I still believe that not all guys consider his every single female friend as something more than f'ship... I don't think they are that very immature to fall in love with every other girl...
Dev,
For your kind information I dont think a person above 25 will normally fall in love.So what do you call the relationship which comes within the age period of 16 to 24 Immatured,Infactuation? Anything u wish!!
I dont know where you live Dev.But come here in south India.Come to the co-ed colleges.I can show you many pairs, they call them friends.But ask their conscience! I can assure atleast a girl can say that he is my friend but not a guy.Simple games of the hormone.

[Sanguine Sridhar]

.... And I am talking about a single guy and sinlge girl deep rooted friendship

[dev]

Dev,
For your kind information I dont think a person above 25 will normally fall in love.So what do you call the relationship which comes within the age period of 16 to 24 Immatured,Infactuation? Anything u wish!!
I dont know where you live Dev.But come here in south India.Come to the co-ed colleges.I can show you many pairs, they call them friends.But ask their conscience! I can assure atleast a girl can say that he is my friend but not a guy.Simple games of the hormone.

Beckham,

I beg to differ again...not all humans betw' the age of 16-24 are immature nor are all those above 24 are mature... I'm from Tamil Nadu & I did the whole of my schooling & college in Tamil Nadu & yes, I've seen pairs like what U've mentioned... There r instances where I've personally advised(or infact warned) some girls of their r'ship with boys as I sensed something fishy in the intent of the guys...Most of these girls were from girls school & were excited to get into r'ships with guys(U can call it infactuation or whatever it is) without knowing where to draw the line & guys trying to take advantage of it... But not all guys are like that... I've a handful of good male friends from college & they remain to be my closest even today...

And I've seen girls who've refused to do college assignments(projects) with boys of the same class... I would call it pure stupidity & immaturity... to those girls, anyone who talks to a boy is a bad girl & I was one of the baddest in the class... :lol:

Anyways, I belive it all needs good guidance from parents right from the young age... they play a major role in shaping us, in imbibing moral values in us...Parents, inspite of preaching that f'ship betw' a boy & girl is wrong, should teach their kids what is right & wrong in that f'ship... it needn't be thru' oral advices... it can be thru' books, their behaviour etc etc... I have been immensely interested in reading & most of those I learnt were thru books... & the credit goes to my parents who supplied me with the right books at the right time...

[Sanguine Sridhar]

Dev,
So what do you think about single guy and gal relationship? I am interested on that and not as bunch!

[dev]

Dev,
So what do you think about single guy and gal relationship? I am interested on that and not as bunch!

My views on that doesn't change either... even in my gang of friends, I was much closer with one guy than with the others... But I didn't get into anything other than f'ship with him... & it continues to be so till today...But it was misunderstood by many to be love & there were fun like my lecturer talking to me abt it... Poor lady... I felt she was much immature than me & I ended up advising her on such r'ships...:lol: But then I got my 'aappu' in my internals...:twisted: :lol:
But one such close f'ship has turned into love in our group... So I don't want to generalise... there r chances of it turning into love but not all... definitely not all oppo'-sex f'ships turn into love...

[Sanguine Sridhar]

Dev,
If i am not wrong i didn speak those things in female perspective.Anyway i don want to go in depth may be it might touch your personal! Forget it!

[dev]

Ok Becks... I'll let U know what my guys have to say abt it...later... a guys' view...:)

[dev]

Here's one of my male friend's answer...

'yen ippo ippadi ellam kelvi ketkure?. It's what you think it is. Friendship is nothing if U think so.it is everything if U think so.athe maathiri thaan ithuvum.It all depends on how you look at things'
:lol: :lol: :lol: Ithuku melai naan ethavathu kettena ennai pinni eduthiduvaanga... :wave:

[Shakthiprabha.]

:) @ dev.

[Sanguine Sridhar]

Dev,
Have you noted onething.Only two ladies (U and SP) are keep on supporting this relationship.Main elements called Guys are keeping their mouth closed! Got something ;)

[great]

:lol:

[dev]

Dev,
Have you noted onething.Only two ladies (U and SP) are keep on supporting this relationship.Main elements called Guys are keeping their mouth closed! Got something ;)

I don't want to assume things, Beckham...

[Shakthiprabha.]

:roll:

[Anoushka]

Dev & Shakthi: I am here to support you :) I grew up with boys all along and I never see male-female relationships as a problem! As I mentioned in pp thread, I have lovely male friends and the friendship hasn't developed into anything more than that :)

Probably because I always grew up with boys at home and also because I chose my friends, my friends were people who were comfortable moving with other girls without feeling anything odd.

Another thing is that my family was very openminded about friends coming home anytime, so there was no secrecy or no excitement in meeting guys... I guess that contributed to the fact that I did not fall in love with the first guy I met and spoke to :)

[sv]

I agree with what beckham says. One to one friendhsip is like balancing on a thin rope. You may tell that the mature person will escape from falling (in love). I say the smart one escapes.
Even if you move with a gang of guys, sure you will find similarity in attitude to one of them. That is when smartness(?!) is required.
First what is love? In my perspective, frienship comes out of liking. Love comes when one tells that out and then commits oneself to him/her for the lifetime. it is just the next stage of friendship.
One of my girl friends used to have many friends. One of the guys starting finding the friendship with her as love and even expressed that to her. They both were from different casts, so initially she hesitated to call her friendship as love, but finally she did. Fate led the guy to get married to somebody else due to family pressure, and my friend was completely broken. Finally she also got married to another guy. Now they don't even talk to eachother though they have to meet frequently.
During her initial romantic days when she told me about her acceptance of that guy's proposal, i told her how courageous she was to follow her heart. Even among my friends, i found some attractions among some of us. Especially when the time of girl/boy search for marriage was going on in our family side. Some of us really felt how nice it would be to get a wife/husband like her/him. We didn't tell that out though sometimes we could sense that. We could see what can happen if we follow our heart and decided to obey the head. Now we feel really safe as we can continue our friendship with our families.
Ideality is always attractive in thoughts. To see that in action, we need to undergo some emotional battles, some people yield to them, some overcome them.

[ssanjinika]

Its been my experience that young guys are more prone to slip up and confuse friendship and love.
**crash** **bang**
now now guys dont get mad at me..I am not saying all guys are like that but from what Ive seen personally I feel that way(when they are young i.e).I did have good male friends but somehow I culdnt be that comfortable with them as I was with my girlfriends.I always felt as though they were misunderstanding the meaning of friendship and any girl was for their picking..if she hadnt tied the "rakhi" atleast.Must make it a point to mention Im talking about my college days.
When I started working I started interacting with guys who were not fresh out of college.Now at this age they seemed to be more acceptable to viewing friendship with women as just that - friendship.This was the time they were looking out for suitable brides,and Ive seen literally the wheels turning in their head as what they want in their wives.Women they consider friends are just that - friends.I made a lot of good male friends once I started working.I got to know their gfs and wives and we still keep in touch :).

[goodsense]

Anoushka,

You could be right there - the influence of being around boys from a young age. I grew up with five brothers, close to my age; the one girl came long too long. But boy, they kept an eye on me from speaking to boys at school and that was instilled in me long after I move away from them. Later in life, I wanted to be more around men - perhaps to make up :wink: Don't really know :?:

ssanjinika,

The Rakhi thing was always a good way to get rid of guys you didn't want to get closer. They knew it too :lol: Most of the time they accepted it with a smile :P. I guess such acceptance was more out of respect for culture, though we were misuing culture that went un-noticed :roll: We never lose either, cause they were expected to act like brothers, I mean be there for you. So in effect, we still had/have them around :lol:

[NOV]

Beckham: I am here to support you :) A boy and a girl cannot get into an intimate friendship, without it developing further. As I mentioned in pp thread, I have seen enough to say this with conviction.

But that does not mean that boys and girls cannot be friends. Normal friendship can exist, but if they get closer to each other beyond the usual, hormones will take over. ;)

No use blaming anyone - folks, friends, family, society - nature planned it that way.

[Nerd]

Beckham: I am here to support you :) A boy and a girl cannot get into an intimate friendship, without it developing further. As I mentioned in pp thread, I have seen enough to say this with conviction.

But that does not mean that boys and girls cannot be friends. Normal friendship can exist, but if they get closer to each other beyond the usual, hormones will take over. ;)

No use blaming anyone - folks, friends, family, society - nature planned it that way.

I actually did not want to answer this since I was against disclosing this side of my personal life. In fact I typed something 3-4 times and had erased the whole thing.

I beg to differ with becks and NOV. I think it depends upon how many such close friends you have! I have two such intimate girl friends and one of them is.. :oops:

But the thing is my first *best* girl friend shwetha, is still my friend. We became friends when I was in my 12th. She is married now and I had never thought of going around with her, neither did she. No harmones BS here :rotfl: I swear!

I met my girlfriend(let her be nameless :lol:) when I was in my final year engineering and we were thick friends for atleast a year and after that the harmones had taken over :oops:

I cannot differentiate the *friendship* I am having with both the girls because they know me more than what I know about me :)

Even If I had not met my girlfriend, I m sure I would have stayed just a friend to Shwetha!!

[NOV]

:rotfl:

Thanks kasi, you've proved my point.

There, Anou. I told you so! :smile2: :smile2: :smile2:

[Nerd]

common NOV, You cant go around with a girl unless she is(was) a friend of you.. I dont believe or appreciate kaNdathum kaathal BS.. What I tried to prove was you can always be a friend, just a friend with a girl, now matter how close you get with her!!

[goodsense]

KS wrote:

"I actually did not want to answer this since I was against disclosing this side of my personal life"

I felt the same at the begining, but couldn't help it later. What the heck :P I am sure there are many more like us here, feeling like we want to keep private about it. Very often (for me it has been daily for the last few months now) we face challenges with the opposite sex even in business and professional relationships. We just have to learn how to deal with things. Its not easy sometimes :wink: :(

[pavalamani pragasam]

Nov! Relieved to hear one sane, mature, practical voice here!

[Sanguine Sridhar]

Kasi,
I accept what u said! Can i ask you something? How you got your lover as a friend right? :oops: That is the point i want to share with you guys. Yupe! I admit you have another friend also.It didn turn out to be what do u call love :oops: because you already have a girl friend :twisted: .Enna mama vaaya koduthu maatikittiya :)

And Ladies there are exceptions for everything! May be there are bunch of pure thozhan and thozhi's, as long as they are thozhan and thozhi i am happy :)

[Nerd]

Kasi,
Yupe! I admit you have another friend also.It didn turn out to be what do u call love :oops: because you already have a girl friend :twisted: .Enna mama vaaya koduthu maatikittiya :)


Beck,

You dint get the point. The first girl was my friend for atleast 4 years (from my 12th - final year engg) before I met my lady love. 4 years, isnt that long enough to convince you??

Yes there are exceptions. But the exceptional cases will support your theory, IMO 8-)

[Sanguine Sridhar]

.....And Nov i want to add the same point what you have said in a different mode.There should be a limit between a guys and gals friendship.When a guy and gal breaks their limit then they are helpless.Example if that gal started to follow whatever that guy says.Then one fine morning if he is not there then that gal would be looking for him.And if a gal forces something to that guy and that guy accepts it then no way that it can be called as friendship.When that guy started to nod his head for whatever that girl is telling then that guy is in a different plan ;)

[Sanguine Sridhar]

Kasi,
I respect your friendship with that girl :notworthy:
But the point is that some couples spends their time in Coffee pubs,College parks,Telephone and they call them friends!!! They call themselves as friend and they are keep on frying groundnut :wink: :lol: in the phone in the nights.I am not very sure that you did these things with your friend?

[NOV]

Thanks PP madam. :oops:

Becks and Kasi, nothing I have said applies to normal or even long standing friendship. It is only when it becomes deeper and intense that warning bells should sound.

I am sure you have best friends, where you spend almost all your waking time together - being seen in each others' company all the time. There is a proverb in Malay - like a split betelnut. :lol:
Now it this kind of friendship that cannot just remain as one when it involves different sex, is my point.

And people - those who disagree; hope you don't discover this the hard way. :twisted:

Men (and women) must learn from others' mistakes. They cant possibly live long enough to make all their own. :lol2:

[a.ratchasi]

Some of the posts here simply make me :rotfl: :)

One of my former colleagues and I are very good friends till to date. We used go for breakfast, lunch, and tea together. Sometimes in a group, sometimes just the two of us. The whole department would be traveling in a bus for teambuilding events. Guess who would be sitting next to me?

Yes, the other colleagues would jokingly try to matchmake us right in the presence of us. Then again, it was only that, a joke. Our colleagues are intelligent and mature people. They see through us both. They know us both. I know who I am and so does my friend.

Whenever there is a tiff between my friend and his girlfriend, guess who becomes the panchayat board thalaivee? Yes, it is me, to BOTH of them.

Of course, I had few 'mishaps' with other guy friends, but it is their problem, not mine.

[Shakthiprabha.]

The Rakhi thing was always a good way to get rid of guys you didn't want to get closer. They knew it too :lol: Most of the time they accepted it with a smile :P. I guess such acceptance was more out of respect for culture, though we were misuing culture that went un-noticed :roll: We never lose either, cause they were expected to act like brothers, I mean be there for you. So in effect, we still had/have them around :lol:

I have a very weird exp to share. I wanted one of my close friend to become my rakhi bro ( 2 of them infact one close one not-so-close)

Both REFUSED OUTRIGHTLY and literally threatened me, NOT TO TIE rakhi. I was a bit sad.

Finally, I gave up thinking, if its just friendship they wanna maintain, WHY PAINT A PIC OF BROTHER-SISTER relationship amidst that :roll:

Sadly many dont believe in rakhi bro sis.

Also TO BE RAKHI BRO SIS, IS NOT A JOKE. one need to REALLY REALLY MEAN IT.

[Shakthiprabha.]

What is beckham's and nov's answer for cases like KASI.

[Sanguine Sridhar]

Konjam kashta padama ella postayum oru thadava padiyunga thappu illa!

[Shakthiprabha.]

.....And Nov i want to add the same point what you have said in a different mode.There should be a limit between a guys and gals friendship.When a guy and gal breaks their limit then they are helpless.Example if that gal started to follow whatever that guy says.Then one fine morning if he is not there then that gal would be looking for him.And if a gal forces something to that guy and that guy accepts it then no way that it can be called as friendship.When that guy started to nod his head for whatever that girl is telling then that guy is in a different plan ;)

WHY, MAY I ASK a girl should FOLLOW everything which a guy says?

What is this in the name of friendship?

Every person is unique and its DUMB to obey any person, without ur own individuality, may it be ur friend, or spouse :roll:

I dont think ANY CLOSE FRIENDS do such things :roll:

[NOV]

What is beckham's and nov's answer for cases like KASI.SP, I don't have anything else new to add. I don't think I can myself any more clearer. Have fun! :D

And people - those who disagree; hope you don't discover this the hard way. :twisted:

[Shakthiprabha.]

Kasi,
I respect your friendship with that girl :notworthy:
But the point is that some couples spends their time in Coffee pubs,College parks,Telephone and they call them friends!!! They call themselves as friend and they are keep on frying groundnut :wink: :lol: in the phone in the nights.I am not very sure that you did these things with your friend?

Whats ur point? If u hang out in cofee pubs or parks U ARE BOUND TO FALL in love ? If they talk hours together on phone they cant be friends?

[Shakthiprabha.]

SP, I don't have anything else new to add. I don't think I can myself any more clearer. Have fun! :D

And people - those who disagree; hope you don't discover this the hard way. :twisted:

Nov, I am beyond the age to find out. When young, I had opportunities to FIND OUT.

and what I found out was.....

THERE CAN BE GOOD FRIENDSHIP between opposite sex.

[NOV]

Nov, I am beyond the age to find out. When young, I had opportunities to FIND OUT. .Who said so? :shock: :shock: :shock:

These kind of friendships can continue even after one gets married. Am reading a stream of yahoogroup msg about a disabled man - who was deserted by his wife for another man. (azhagana ratchasi should know abt this...)

Please! Open your eyes and observe what is going on. Don't be naive and imagine that only the young fall in love! 8-)

[Shakthiprabha.]

NOV,

We are not talking about exceptional cases. Love does not normally happen when one is committed to another person :oops: :roll: :shock:

[a.ratchasi]

NOV, please don't compare male-female friendship with adultery.

Ramboxxx has expressed my thoughts on that issue aptly.

[NOV]

Let me complete it for you:
Love does not normally happen when one is committed to another person :oops: :roll: :shock:........which is why one should be very careful with "friendship" with the opposite sex.....

[NOV]

NOV, please don't compare male-female friendship with adultery..and why not?
what is stopping a husband or a wife to have an intense friendship with an outsider, as long as there is this escape clause available?

Mary Hunt, author of Fierce Tenderness: A Feminist Theology of Friendship (1991), says: "Economic, political, psychological, and other differences between the genders result in the fact that women find it difficult to be friends with men and vice versa."

[NOV]

Do you remember the movie Harry Met Sally?
In the opening scene, as he and Sally are driving together from Chicago to New York, Harry says: "Men and women can't be friends- because the sex part always gets in the way."

This is just to inform Becks that this issue is not restricted to just TN.

[Shakthiprabha.]

It may happen there nov.

We as Indians know our bounds. We as indians know our ethics. WE can maintain the closeness and yet our limits.

Are u comin to say, THERE CAN BE NO FRIENDS of opp sex for the fear or adultery, esp after one is married.

[NOV]

Try saying that to AR! :roll:

No, I am not saying you cant have friends after marriage. You can, but it cant be as intense as your friendship with someone of your sex.

Famed author, C. S. Lewis says that friendship between a man and a woman is likely to slip over into eros unless either they are physically unattractive to each other, or at least one of them already loves another. If neither of these is the case, friendship is "almost certain" to become eros "sooner or later."

[a.ratchasi]

NOV, I don't need a Mary Hunt nor a movie to dictate about friendship to me.

...because the sex part always gets in the way :shock:

If one is THAT weak, so much so that they are under the impression that anything and everything relates to or ends with sex, then I sincerely feel sorry for the person.

[Shakthiprabha.]

true nov.

note the point.....

"unless otherwise........... atleast one of them ALREADY loves another."

HERE WE LOVE OUR SPOUSE dont we?

[Sanguine Sridhar]

KM by your age you are much experienced in other departments and not in this.IMO girls are innocent in this topic and they are proving here.I am tired of explaining :(

[Shakthiprabha.]

Even otherwise,

do u all crumble down to say.......

ANYTHING BETWEEN 2 opposite sex, ALWAYSSSSSSSSS need to result and think in sexual thoughts.

AINT THAT lil absurd or sheepsih to think about?

[Shakthiprabha.]

Beckham,

Ive had good freinds then.
I have close friends now.

I know what I talk :roll:

[Sanguine Sridhar]

KM,
If couples are sensible and matured then no issues but generally in the teen-age or in college days they lack in those.. Understand something? If you are smart no problem but tell me how many people will be like that? You can count the number of pairs (One to One friends) here with that kind of maturity!

[a.ratchasi]

Try saying that to AR! :roll:
"

Dear, please don't twist and turn my quote.
Adultery does not equate male-female friendship. That is what I said. It is obvious the disabled man's story is not about frienship but adultery. In case you forgot, you highlighted that story here when the case in point was about the possibility of male-female platonic relationship.

When friendship turns sexual, that is no longer a friendship though I am aware there are certain percentage who claim it as so. Let's not get there.

[NOV]

SP, Let me bold enough and tell you: Your being friends with the male species is no problem at all.
Based on all your postings, I am sure you have your own personal guidelines on what to do and what not to do.
I will never question your freindship, as it is sincere and not really intense.

How many people here have seen the various antics of the friends in the TV series "Friends."

I rest my case. :lol:

[NOV]

It may happen there nov.
We as Indians know our bounds. We as indians know our ethics. WE can maintain the closeness and yet our limits. What Shakthi has said is that in Malaysia it is possible, but not in India.
And that is why I said...

Try saying that to AR! :roll:

:roll: :roll: :roll:


When friendship turns sexual, that is no longer a friendship though I am aware there are certain percentage who claim it as so. exactly. which is why I frown upon intense relationships.

[a.ratchasi]

It may happen there nov.
We as Indians know our bounds. We as indians know our ethics. WE can maintain the closeness and yet our limits. What Shakthi has said is that in Malaysia it is possible, but not in India.
And that is why I said...

Try saying that to AR! :roll:

:roll: :roll: :roll:

I am lost. Are you meaning to say that the Indians in India know their boundary and we Malaysians do not?
Nevermind, no need to pursue this anymore as (See below)




When friendship turns sexual, that is no longer a friendship though I am aware there are certain percentage who claim it as so. exactly. which is why I frown upon intense relationships.
we are talking the same language already! :thumbsup:

[NOV]

I am lost. Are you meaning to say that the Indians in India know their boundary and we Malaysians do not?.

Now you know why I said that AR may not agree with SP.
Why jump at me? :huh:

[Sandeep]

I dont understand this discussion here. Men are saying "we cannot have intimate friendship without a romantic or sexual element to it" and women are saying "yes you can".

Weird

[a.ratchasi]

a.ratchasi wrote:
I am lost. Are you meaning to say that the Indians in India know their boundary and we Malaysians do not?.

Now you know why I said that AR may not agree with SP.
Why jump at me?

I didn't know 'there' was actually a reference to Malaysia.
When Shakthi had put forth her query. I concluded that you had SP on your side and used that to slam me! :oops: :oops:

Alright, I suppose I do owe you an apology, dear NOV.
Saya minta maaf!

[NOV]

no need lah :oops:
I understood that you misunderstood. :smile2:
go to jokes page and have some fun. :lol2:

[Shakthiprabha.]

:shock:

I did not know that was in malaysia.

I am sure it can be clearly understood when I meant foreigners i meant.......


1. ppl who are not of INDIAN ORIGIN
2. ppl belonging to diff countries where commitment after marriage is not expected to a very earnest extent
3. a world where its normal to enter into relationships

and WE ARE NOT TALKIN OF EXCEPTIONAL CASES (LIKE THAT MALAYSIANS) here.

AR,

What statement of mine made u conclude I am on Nov's side? :roll:

I wonder if I am THAT bad in communicating!!!!! :roll:

Sandeep,

Kindly read posts by men like kasi, who were nice enough to come open about their true and genuine friendship

[NOV]

SP, now you are treading dangerous grounds. :twisted:

Basic moral values, including commitment in marriage, are expected in every part of the world. Most countries have laws pertaining to this.

As for openness as compared to the rest of the countries, it is due to the exposure factor. No use keeping your bird in a cage and proclaiming to the world that the bird will never leave you!

[Sandeep]

Sandeep,

Kindly read posts by men like kasi, who were nice enough to come open about their true and genuine friendship

OK. Enjoy.

[Shakthiprabha.]

Nov,

I do not have much clue of the kind of life they lead. I am in india from my birth and never left the soil once. My comment were based on general opinion presented or portrayed to few of us who have never left india.

I do know, european countries are strict in breach of marriage contract due to lack of commitment(adhering to laws).

All I talk here is, EVEN if they miss or slip occasionally its not TREATED as severely as it is with us.

I suppose that is true. IF NOT, I AM SORRY, I STAND corrected.

REgarding, keeping the bird in cage,

WHAT one refers to as cage IS THE QUESTION.

The cage here is no longer as it used to be. PPl here do go out, talk, share, spend lot of time together, joke around, even hug friends.

There the limit ENDS. I believe the above said things can be considered as good freindship.

Anything beyond that is not much resorted to between friends. If u consider that, as BEING IN CAGE, I suppose their lies the difference between ppl raised in such customs!

[cancer]

whar romance going here... :roll:

[Shakthiprabha.]

hi cancer,

No romance going on here.


only arguments on WHERE IS ROMANCE!

:rotfl: :rotfl: :lol:

[Anoushka]

Sridhar/NOV: What do you guys mean by intense friendship?

If talking to someone on a phone for hours together, hanging out together all the time, helping each other, turning to each other for some sincere advice and listening to it is intense then I can tell you that I have both male friends and female friends that are quite intense!

I used to be on the phone to my female friend for hours together (record was 5 hours non stop!), so much so that if I dad calls and the phone is engaged, he would call on the other phone and go "Why don't you call Indu from the other line?" without even waiting for an answer from me! At any opportunity I got I used to go and stay with her, we had similar thoughts, read similar books and liked similar food, in short we were like twins :) If I had shared the same friendship with a male, you mean to say that my hormones would have kicked in and it would have transformed to love?

One of my (male) classmates, who still happens to be a good friend of mine used to sit beside me in class, we used to meet up after class in the local bakery and chat away, and then when we went home we would still call each other and chat for hours together. We never felt our hormones kick in at any stage! Btw, I was not going out with anyone at that stage.... :) And as for listening to what your friend says, I've had this guy sitting with me outside the exam hall, just before the exams and try to get some Basic electronics into my head!!! Thanks to him and his tips, I passed my exam!

Sridhar: What you are talking about is not "Love", it is mere physical attraction!

[Shakthiprabha.]

Anou,

iF ive understood it right, they dont say LOVE OR physical RELATIONSHIP.

What they say is, any such FREINDSHIP is absoltuey absent from PLATONIC GROUNDS, in the sense there may be, WILL BE, bound to be, mild romantic or fluttering thoughts. (not exactly crush too...they mean feelings milder than that)

[Sanguine Sridhar]

:huh: No Use! Pengal pathi naan pesavey illa.Guys mentality pathi thaan pesureyen! Ungalakku ellam eppo thaan puriyomo.Anyways :wave:

[Anoushka]

Shakthi: Thanks for correcting me :)

Sridhar: We all agree that guys do wear their heart on their sleeves and we are just giving a pointer to you guys on what girls think :rotfl:

[Sandeep]

And Again Men loss the argument; His time on a Topic related to 'how men think'.

Anoushka,

Its long been agreed that you gals are right on "how women think about friendship", the argument was on "how men think about friendship"

[Shakthiprabha.]

:roll:

anou ipdi same side goal podareengalE....

ennavo......... I am gonna ask my CLOSEST 3 friends on their ideas or friendship. Whatever they say, I WOULD NEVER EVER SHARE IT HERE :D :lol: :lol:

[cancer]

hi cancer,

No romance going on here.


only arguments on WHERE IS ROMANCE!

:rotfl: :rotfl: :lol:


i m very tired to read in previous pages.. :D if u tell.. whats the dicussion topic going.. i wil join., :D

[Shakthiprabha.]

cancer,

everything is over. ppl are packing up :)

anway say ur few words on


WHTHER OR NOT a man and woman can have PURE PLATONIC yet intense FRIENDSHIP WITHOUT even MILDLY being attracted to each other?

[Anoushka]

Shakthi: :) Sridhar ippadi frustrate aaguratha paarka paavama irunthathu :lol: athuthaan same side goal pOtuten.....

If you ask my honest opnion I would say girls are mature enough to know the difference in general and most men are mature enough, but the problem is we have a massive population and even a small percentage in that is big in numbers.... what Sridhar sees and mentions here is about that small percentage!

When we were in college we had exactly two love stories in the whole college (between four years of Eng students, BS.c, MSc, ME & PolyTechinic) going on and I know that both the couples got married to person they were in love with! Don't tell me that there were no chance for a one to one friendship between a girl and a guy in a college that big....

[cancer]

cancer,

everything is over. ppl are packing up :)

anway say ur few words on


WHTHER OR NOT a man and woman can have PURE PLATONIC yet intense FRIENDSHIP WITHOUT even MILDLY being attracted to each other?

ya... last week i discussed same thing with my friend.. we can have.... but now we can see most of them having physical relation.. NOT ALL ARE INCLUDING IN THIS CASE ... i can't generalise this..

[Sanguine Sridhar]

Ennakku theyvai thaan :D ... Yaaro eppadiyo ponga ennakku enna!!!

[Shakthiprabha.]

hmm cancer. good :)

U SAID the verdict actually.


IN ANY ARGUMENT

****** we CANT generalise things*******

There may be cases this way and that way.

:)

I suppose its time to move on to next topic or thread. ppl are getting tired :roll:

[cancer]

hmm cancer. good :)

U SAID the verdict actually.


IN ANY ARGUMENT

****** we CANT generalise things*******

There may be cases this way and that way.

:)

I suppose its time to move on to next topic or thread. ppl are getting tired :roll:


:D ok. but sometimes it happened .. the very close friends will have physical attraction too.. it happens...

[Sanguine Sridhar]

:lol:

[Shakthiprabha.]

:banghead:

haiyo haiyo haiyo....

vitrunga..... naan varla intha argument kku :cry:

[cancer]

:banghead:

haiyo haiyo haiyo....

vitrunga..... naan varla intha argument kku :cry:


hmmmm...you have to accept that.. nowadays they are taking this very casual..

[Sandeep]

:lol: :rotfl: Oh I am missing the dancing Emoticons

[Sanguine Sridhar]

Hayyo hayyo
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: