Topic started by kumar (@ 203.197.135.68) on Mon Jul 8 04:27:59 .
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what do forumhubbers think about capital punishment to children at home,leave alone schools
People are concerned about punishment in schools. but don't we see in our daily lives, so many parents impose so many things on small children and hit them if they refuse. Is it fair.

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• From: ramakrishna (@ pool0168.cvx20-bradley.dialup.earthlink.net) on: Tue Jul 9 03:51:09
  
  do you mean corporal punishment?
  
  
• From: kumar (@ 203.197.135.220) on: Tue Jul 9 09:59:07
  
  I mean caning a child at home and at school. We take the matter to authorities when a teacher beats a child but are we not guilty doing the same at home
  
  
• From: sweetlankie... (@ hse-mtl-ppp67358.qc.sympatico.ca) on: Tue Jul 9 17:34:15
  
  Well i didn't belive in caning a child at home until i spend 10 dayz at my cousin's plcae. My cousin has a son who is 6 years old. He is an animal, he is so rude, loud and naughty. I felt like killing him. He would talk as if he is a teen ager. He makes fun of people including his mom (my cousin). He respect no1.... The only person he is scared of, is ME. I went boating with him and my other cousin( his aunt). He was running around like an animal and making fun of people. I had to slap him to make him quiet.
  
  
• From: Indian (@ bl1051-3.me.iastate.edu) on: Tue Jul 9 19:55:59
  
  Kumar, Capital punishment is death. :) :)
  
  
• From: sweetlankie (@ hse-mtl-ppp67358.qc.sympatico.ca) on: Tue Jul 9 20:49:27
  
  yeh Kumar capital punishment is death penalty...
  but I knew what u were trying to say...
  
  
• From: fridge (@ netcache7.is.co.za) on: Wed Jul 10 11:14:31
  
  Some parents do beat on children heavily to the point of abuse, that is an entirely different story and they should get help.
  
  Kumar
  "so many parents impose so many things on small children and hit them if they refuse."
  please explain or give an example. And are you refering to normal kids.
  
  
• From: fridge (@ netcache7.is.co.za) on: Wed Jul 10 11:22:56
  
  My friend has a 6 yr old child who is hyperactive, when he visits he can become very demanding and also very destructive if his energy are not channelled in a proper way. He tires his mother out, and I have watched her give him a few smacks at times, that never seems to work with him. Keeping him occupied works best for him but tiring for his mother.
  
  
• From: kumar (@ dialpool-210-214-4-62.maa.sify.net) on: Fri Jul 12 09:18:47
  
  Dear Friends,
  Sorry for my language. mainly short tempered parents Cane their child. If we grow children in a responsible way with a little bit of patience, they will grow up in a better way bringing laerels to them.
  I saw a parent asking a five year girl put her shoes and socks which she wore on opposite legs. that girl was slapped for not knowing to put her shoes on her own. The other day in school two parents were engrossed in a chat that they completely forgot their wards,again 6 yrs of age.
  they were threatened for not following them to the school canteen. is this fair.
  Have anyone seen parents like this.?
  
  
• From: kumar (@ dialpool-210-214-4-62.maa.sify.net) on: Fri Jul 12 09:21:50
  
  tell me a suitable heading for this topic
  
  
• From: kumar (@ dialpool-210-214-4-62.maa.sify.net) on: Fri Jul 12 09:24:25
  
  Dear Friends,
  Sorry for my language. mainly short tempered parents Cane their child. If we grow children in a responsible way with a little bit of patience, they will grow up in a better way bringing laurels to us.
  I saw a parent asking a five year girl put her shoes and socks which she wore on opposite legs. that girl was slapped for not knowing to put her shoes on her own. The other day in school two parents were engrossed in a chat that they completely forgot their wards,again 6 yrs of age.
  they were threatened for not following them to the school canteen. is this fair.
  Have anyone seen parents like this.?
  
  
• From: :) Punnahai (@ d221-216-98.systems.cogeco.net) on: Fri Jul 12 12:04:31
  
  Kumar:
  
  I should say though at a certain age cane (mostly fear of cane) worked very well on me and if my parents had given me any lectures then I would have thought, "these old fools, what do they know"
  
  
• From: fridge (@ proxy.ndf.mweb.co.za) on: Fri Jul 12 15:31:27
  
  Children get beaten up physically by frustrated parents, they also get harmed psychologically by manipulative parents. What is good dicipline?
  
  
• From: :) Punnahai (@ d150-37-43.home.cgocable.net) on: Fri Jul 12 16:03:54
  
  >>Children get beaten up physically by frustrated parents<<
  Fridge,
  And not frustrated parents too. In my case, it was a good medicine. Talk and philosphy would have taken my parents nowhere with me at certain points.
  
  
• From: Shakthi (@ bangdp-35-160.mantraonline.com) on: Sun Jul 14 06:28:32
  
  And i was wondering where they give CAPITAL PUNISHMENT!
  
  regarding children being beaten up...
  
  I support n second fridge's view.
  
  
• From: fridge (@ proxy.ndf.mweb.co.za) on: Sun Jul 14 13:35:08
  
  Punnahai
  
  Just how bad were you as a kid:-) I think most people have cuaght a hiding when they were kids,
  
  In my view children get naughty and misbehave, sometimes it is not misbehaving at all, it may just be diff from the set out rules by the parents. Parents get fed up and impatient with the child, they talk to the child and this does not work and then parents get impatient.
  A child in school may misbehave and the incident could be reported to the family, outcome child gets a hiding, Sometimes because the parent feels let down in the community,
  Why do children misbehave? And in whose eyes do they misbehave?
  
  
  
  
  
  
• From: sesh (@ user-vcaup5b.dsl.mindspring.com) on: Sun Jul 14 21:18:38
  
  Caning/Beating children is done by frustrated and immature parents. It is an indication of the mal-adjustment in the parents. It becomes a repeating habit in such families - more misbehaviour and more beatings.
  
  Ideally, physical punishments should be reduced to nearly zero.Only in rare cases, like in life threatening situations and the like, it may have to be resorted to.
  
  Setting good examples is the best way of bringing up children. The parents must lead cultured lives and the children will automatically grow up, without need for punishments.
  
  Punishments can not be entirely done away with. Disciplining a child is not an automatic process and is not a part of nature's ways. Discipline is accepted social behaviours for harmonious living, while nature tends towards self-indulgement activities.
  
  Positive reinforcements are always more effective/productive than the use of fear psychosis.
  
  
• From: Skanthavelu Nadarajah (@ edtntnt6-port-204.dial.telus.net) on: Sat Jul 20 00:36:00
  
  ...The only person he is afraid of is ME...
  
  Boy, I am glad I am not sweetlankies 2nd cousin.
  Had it been different and I made her mad, she most probably would have killed me dead. YIKES!
  
  
• From: Skanthavelu Nadarajah (@ edtntnt7-port-74.dial.telus.net) on: Fri Jul 26 08:56:45
  
  >>>she most probaly would have killed me dead<<<
  YIKESTERS! :-(((
  
  
• From: Sweetlankie (@ hse-kitchener-ppp195040.sympatico.ca) on: Fri Jul 26 10:42:49
  
  Hey i'm not mean! this kid goes around making fun of people. He is only 6..He is such a devil..He logged my other cousin's kid( 1.5 yrs old) in the washoom and turned the lights off..You do know that kidz can drown in toilet.
  The next day he pressed a pillow against the baby gals face..This kid is a maniac..
  
  I don't have to beat him up, just a cold look would do for him.
  
  
• From: Sweetie (@ webcacheh04a.cache.pol.co.uk) on: Fri Jul 26 12:05:26
  
  When I was 1 yrs old my mum used to leave me at this childminders who was a real b****. She would beat me up for everything, eg. wet myself etc.
  How would a 1 yr old know whats right and whats wrong. I told my dad that she beat me and he went and asked her if it was true. She lied and said no. Afterwards she got hold of me and gave me a good beating and told me dat if I ever told again she'd kill me.
  Psychologically, it's affected me alot.
  In the long run I think smacking is good in extreme csses like sweetlankie's psycho 2nd cous but otherwise no.
  
  
• From: katie (@ cache-ntc-aa11.proxy.aol.com) on: Mon Nov 10 23:01:37
  
  punishment is not always the best way to handle it but parents go to far some times like hitting you with a belt.
  
  

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