Topic started by swathi (@ 202.9.175.244) on Sun May 6 01:45:33 .
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how can a person identify if he/she is really happy at heart?

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• From: sujatha (@ 202.9.161.110) on: Fri May 18 08:04:50
  
  u cant find happiness from any person's face. u have to go to bed with him/her to find whether he/she is happy. hope all agree including mini.
  
  
• From: xxxxxx (@ bkj-cache83.jaring.my) on: Fri May 18 10:10:08
  
  that kind of happiness is a stupid one. yeah .. you should feel happy when you are around this guy/girl.. the happiness for both of you is when both of you want to be together (i did not mean in bed)every minute and you want to do things togeher... Just by going to bed together and seeing the happinees in it is really foolish because you have no value in you and that kinda happiness will never ever last...
  
  
• From: TT (@ 203.199.196.118) on: Sat May 19 03:56:40
  
  After hard work you get happiness. But is it assured? Sometimes you don't get the reward. But, when you get the reward, you are assigned with a new goal of reaching the next highest level which depletes your happiness. You parents or loved ones may leave you for various reasons. So where does the real happiness arise? In my opinion, experiencing real or eternal happiness is very rarely possible while living in this world. But you may experience temporary happiness very frequently.
  
  
• From: xxxxxx (@ brf-cache11.jaring.my) on: Sat May 19 09:41:20
  
  
  yeah .. TT what you said is true ..
  
  you said ..
  
  "After hard work you get happiness. But is it assured? Sometimes you don't get the reward."
  >> usually you dont work for a thing just for the reward. If you are just working for the reward, then you wont be doing your work with your full heart. When the work you do is a success, you will feel really happy because you can do it and not others. You can be damn happy because you are great. You dont need others to tell you. Because my dear friend, in this world no one is happy to see you a successful person. They will never praise you sincerely but instead of it they might say something really small that might just pull you down so that you wont be successful anymore..
  
  you said .. "when you get the reward, you are assigned with a new goal of reaching the next highest level which depletes your happiness"
  >> it might, because you will feel that they are just pushing you too much.. but, why should you think like that. Think a bit positively.. Your work is what they assigned you to do and you are paid for it too. You can still be happy for you last achivement and take that as something to encourage you to work harder...
  
  you said ..
  "You parents or loved ones may leave you for various reasons."
  >> this is true ... you must remember that every humans here will go off soon. Why should you think that they left you. Just think as though they are still in you. You should be happy for the kinda person you became due to them. Because of you parents, siblings and also true friends.. you became the person you are. You do carry a bit of their character. So, just be happy that they made you someone great....
  
  To tell you the truth TT, i m telling you this from the very deep part in my heart. I went through a lot in my life. I am just 20 plus and i lost my happiness due to friends since i left my house for studies. I lost every singel thing.. and lately the real saddest thing happened to me (but i m sorry cause i cant mention it) and i feel as though my full happiness is missing .. but then.. after thinking and talking to my close friends back in my hometown.. i just realised something .. y should we loose our happiness just because of some idiots who wants to see us suffer.. maybe they did not mean it.. but when you look at them .. they seem really happy ... so .. why should you trouble yourself just because of what they did. You have the love of your parents, siblings , maybe gf/bf, maybe husband/wife, maybe children... and the best part .. you always have the love of god. With all this, there is no way you should be unhappy my friend. You might think that i m someone talking nonsence ... but just think ...
  
  i cant say much too .. because i m just starting to get back all my happiness ..
  
  at times, you have to blame things to yourself .. you have to take things cooly. When you get angry, you can just loose your happiness on the spot because you shouted/cursed the person who made you angry. By this way, you can just loose them because of your foolish act. Take things cooly and smoothly.. Think before you act.. everything will fall in it place..
  
  
• From: Misguided Soul (@ bkj-cache83.jaring.my) on: Wed Jun 6 05:18:21
  
  Hapiness is forgetting sadness
  
  
• From: anu (@ 164.164.86.66) on: Wed Jun 6 07:33:48
  
  I think happiness is when you have a look at the simple things in life and get more happiness out of them. When I feel sad or depressed, no amount of positive thinking or whatever I consciously do to come out of it helps. then again, after some time I find that something very simple, like hearing a beautiful song uplifts my spirits greatly. The key is, doing it unconsciously. So it does not help, if when I feel sad I consciously try to enjoy the song!
  
  
• From: Nith (Nithya) (@ spider-tp051.proxy.aol.com) on: Wed Jun 6 11:45:21
  
  
  Hapiness Is...
  
  taking in all the wonders of life --
  
  its joys,
  
  its sorrows,
  
  its sunshine,
  
  its smiles --
  
  learning from the experiences each one brings you,
  
  and then, from a caring heart,
  
  giving them all away again.
  
  - Author Unknown -
  
  
  Cheers
  Nithya :-)
  
  
  
  
• From: Ganesh (@ 192.237.114.65) on: Wed Jun 6 12:24:50
  
  - Author Unknown - .... That's so sad...
  
  
• From: utopia (@ 64-48-118-19.customer.algx.net) on: Wed Jun 6 12:46:55
  
  Anu ... thats a good expression of the feeling of happiness .... I guess we guess sad or happy based on how we look at things or events .... based on whether we see the happenings are good or bad (for us and/or others) .... so the best way to find happiness is to change our outlook ...... of course, its easy said than done .... but atleast we can give it a try ... given that ALL OF US are living just to be happy ... ultimately :)
  
  
• From: utopia (@ 64-48-118-19.customer.algx.net) on: Wed Jun 6 12:48:35
  
  correction .... the line should read "i guess we get happy or sad"
  
  
• From: kurankaatti (@ spxychi1.bankofamerica.com) on: Wed Jun 6 15:05:53
  
  noi illa vaazhve inpam
  
  
• From: Nith (Nithya) (@ spider-wb024.proxy.aol.com) on: Thu Jun 7 10:11:21
  
  Ganesh,
  
  If it would make you happy, I can take credit for that poem, though I did not write it......Okvaa.
  
  Cheers,
  Nithya :-)
  
  
• From: Ganesh (@ 192.237.114.65) on: Thu Jun 7 10:41:02
  
  Nithya,
  I appreciate your sincerity...
  
  
• From: BUBBLE SORT (@ ) on: Sat Mar 20 22:01:40
  
  BUBBLE SORT
  
  
• From: rodo (@ nat-7.cat.com) on: Wed Mar 24 15:42:05 EST 2004
  
  Nithya, That poem is good.
  
  I believe Happiness is in you...
  
  
• From: Tim (@ ppp-219.65.65.187.mum2.vsnl.net.in) on: Mon Jun 14 04:14:05
  
  Happiness is when you are eating bhajiyas at home on a Monday morning while its raining outside! God it's Monday today- gotta get the bhajiyas ready mate!! LOL!!!
  
  
• From: suresh (@ 61.95.227.153) on: Mon Jun 14 05:09:40 EDT 2004
  
  :-)
  
  happiness is within. if one feel the happiness from outward then he would feel miserable without that. for eg. loving a girl makes you happy. but you feel miserable without that girl. so, how can love be the real happiness?
  
  - from osho.
  
  :-)
  
  

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