Some concerns about piercing
Topic started by abha (@ hawk-gw.infotechfl.com) on Tue Jul 1 12:35:41 .
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I am a 40 year old Indian lady from NJ, USA. After I came across some threads in this board about piercing, I would like to ask your suggestions and share my concerns with you. As I don't belong to current trend of generations with most of you, rather my daughter belongs to that age group, I guess you guys can share your views about this. I have a 17 year old daughter who was born in India and have been with us in USA since last eight years. My hubby is into post doc research into an university and hope to complete his papers by the end of next year and we wish to go back permanently to India then.
But as I had said, my daughter who grew her sense in this country, has been completely changed from the way we were brought up. It is our fault, we admit that we could not raise her up properly. But still, some reaons lie in these so-called american society too. Let me come to the actual point.
Since when my daughter was in 5th grade, she had some friends who were piercing freaks. They pierce navels, tongues even if genitals too. Since the she became fond of piercing too. Not like them, but some how she started liking holes in her body. I did not have piercing other than my ears. I tried to teach her, advise her, suggest her, that piercing is not a good thing to to look into. But she did not listen to me. I tried to become her friend and advise her. But she thought that I am a worst mother ever been.
Her father, my hubby did not have time to spend for his family and daughter. And even if he manages some time, she favors for my daughter without thinking that in details. When she was 13, I took her to the piercing pagoda to get her ears done with the second pairs of holes. As I said, I tried to become her friend and to be with her always, so I put on the second pair of holes in my ears too. Just to give her an idea that I can support second pair of ear piercing, but no where else. She loved her ears rings I guess. We both wear studs in ears and some times change between ourselves.
But as time went by, she thought of piercing her navel. I forbade that idea and resisted her from doing that. But her gesture became so keen and irresitable I tried to sit with her and listen what she's up to. She had no reason to show me rather saying, "...look Laila has that...see Julie has that...even Amrita has that too...". I know some people of the same age group has that, I can not scold them. I can scold my daughter, not the others daughter, isn't it. So one fine morning, I asked her, if she loves piercing, how bout nose? I knew nose piercing is quite common in Indians and women all over India wear nose rings. She jumped into that idea. I took her for nose piercing again. She insisted me for piercing my nose too. I was little hesitating. But agreed upon her request. We did the piercing together on our right nostril. It was a painful process, but the wound healed in two weeks. Intially we had nose rings and then chaged to stud after the ring started rotating. We bought couple of nose studs and started wearing them. Mine is quite big, traditional type and little heavier with a stone, and that weight had grown my piercing hole bigger. My daughter even likes to wear my nose stud. As she says, her stud is so tiny that is not visible, so she likes mine. And when she opens that from my nose, I hate showing of my nose piercing hole. It is dark and prominent, looks like a mole. My daughter, I feel ashamed to say, had become freaky likings to open and put the stud into my nose, and says sometimes she likes my deep piercing hole too.
My hubby never paid any attention to all these but after we got ourselves into nose piercing he liked my nose stud and grown freaky like my duaghter to play around with the nose ring. These has been continuing since last two-three years. But we developed a new peoblem recently. My duaghter who is 17 now has become too desparate to get her belly button done. I have been forbidding her since a long time. But she's not listening. She infact convinced my hubby to get her navel pierced and my hubby started taunting me about agreeing to her request and get mine done too. Like the way I gave her company in last two times. I am dead against this. Firstly, I mostly wear saree below my navel and I have a little flesh in my belly...that makes things worse to wear a ring there. Secondly, it is not socially acceptable in India still, I guess. But seeing some recent movies like "Road", my daughter convinced my hubby that Indian girls wear navel rings nowadays. And my hubby is now insisting me.
Can you guys really help me saying whether it has become a real trend in India? As we are heading back in the next year, I am curious to know. Is that a new fashion? Is nose piercing still a fashion too? I know I will look awful with rings in navel and nose, but I am concerned about my daughter.
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- From: hari (@ )
on: Thu Jan 15 01:39:08
send yr navel pics in saree....
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on: Fri Jan 23 08:56:40 EST 2004
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- From: mark (@ dialup-67.24.175.136.dial1.grandrapids1.level3.net)
on: Tue Feb 10 12:29:27
piercings are cool..great that you and your daughter both had your nose done..my girlfriend has a nose ring too..she is 42, had it done at age 40, but always wanted to get one...
be proud of your Indian heritage and the fact that it's mainstream there...
- From: Britney (@ dialup-67.75.17.177.dial1.boston1.level3.net)
on: Tue Feb 10 15:38:14 EST 2004
Hello,
I am not from India, but I'm from Louisiana. I think you should let your daughter get her belly button peirced, it's not trashy lyke some other peircings.Nowadays,if you go to the beach, just abut every girl/adult female has her belly button peirced. You must let go and let your daughter do what she pleases. She is 17, almost an adult, let her start making her own decisions.
Love Always,
Britney
- From: angelina (@ malamos.entel.cl)
on: Mon Feb 23 20:25:45
yeah i agree, i'm from Chile, south america, 21 years old and i totally agree with britney, navel and nose piercings can be so cute, and doesn't look trashy like others piercings.
And your daughter is an adult, so better go with her, be her friend and help her to pick up the most beautiful navelpiercing.
love
- From: Mangesh (@ ppp-219.65.64.182.mum2.vsnl.net.in)
on: Wed Mar 3 06:39:42 EST 2004
hi folks,
I have pierced small golden pin on left nostril.
But it paining hard. please tell me remidies. It looks nice
Mangesh
- From: Mangesh (@ ppp-219.65.64.182.mum2.vsnl.net.in)
on: Wed Mar 3 06:39:53 EST 2004
hi folks,
I have pierced small golden pin on left nostril.
But it paining hard. please tell me remidies. It looks nice
Mangesh
- From: Mangesh (@ ppp-219.65.38.254.mum2.vsnl.net.in)
on: Wed Mar 3 06:42:20 EST 2004
hi folks,
I have pierced small golden pin on left nostril.
But it paining hard. please tell me remidies. It looks nice
Mangesh
- From: rongman (@ )
on: Tue Jun 1 13:54:52
pierced nose is sexy.it adds beauty to ladies.imagine a shying stud on your redish nose.it is more beautiful when you rub nose.
- From: veeresh (@ 212.85.12.211)
on: Tue Jun 1 14:08:22 EDT 2004
pierce both sides of ur nose.it is very good 4 u.by piercing ur nose you r getting lot of benefit 4 ur body. many indian beauties pierced nose.you know famous actress shobana pierced her both sides of nose.she is so sexy with nose pines. it is more beautiful if your nose is sharp and red.nose piercing is an easy process.
- From: stephanie (@ cpe-24-209-153-128.wi.rr.com)
on: Sat Aug 14 16:47:35
hi, my name is stephanie and i am 13 years old. i'm going to be 14 in january. i want my belly button peirced, but my mom won't let me. she says that being 13 is too young to get it done!! but i dissagree. i think that age shouldn't really natter that much. i think it depends on how mature you are!! i already have my both of my ears peirced and i think that a belly ring won't be too bad!! i think that they are awesome!! if you can email me at purplekoala_91@yahoo.com and tell me what you thikn. thanks
- From: JOSEPH (@ ppp64-228.dsl-blr.eth.net)
on: Tue Sep 28 03:59:22
hai,this is Joseph i was looking for a nose ring subject and found yours very interesting i look for to seeing your sexy nosering (really makes me go GA-GA)plz mail me DESPERATE plz
- From: kumar (@ 61.1.146.63)
on: Tue Sep 28 04:55:34 EDT 2004
Hi
I am kumar
I am 21 years old
I am doing my graduation
I am fenetic about nose piercing
I do not know how I will look but I really want to get my nose pierced
I want to wear a nose ring
I want to get my ear pierced too
But due t family problems I can not do it
Can u sugeest me any way to pierce my nose and ears without having a mark
I also want to know is there any kind of nose rings or ear rings that can be wear without piercing our nose
Also please send me ur nose piercing photo
This is a request from ur new friend
send me ur response at tape31@yahoo.com
- From: kumar (@ 61.1.146.63)
on: Tue Sep 28 04:56:15 EDT 2004
Hi
I am kumar
I am 21 years old
I am doing my graduation
I am fenetic about nose piercing
I do not know how I will look but I really want to get my nose pierced
I want to wear a nose ring
I want to get my ear pierced too
But due t family problems I can not do it
Can u sugeest me any way to pierce my nose and ears without having a mark
I also want to know is there any kind of nose rings or ear rings that can be wear without piercing our nose
Also please send me ur nose piercing photo
This is a request from ur new friend
send me ur response at tape31@yahoo.com
- From: kumar (@ 61.1.145.207)
on: Tue Sep 28 07:48:42 EDT 2004
Hi
I am kumar
I am 21 years old
I am doing my graduation
I am fenetic about nose piercing
I do not know how I will look but I really want to get my nose pierced
I want to wear a nose ring
I want to get my ear pierced too
But due t family problems I can not do it
Can u sugeest me any way to pierce my nose and ears without having a mark
I also want to know is there any kind of nose rings or ear rings that can be wear without piercing our nose
Also please send me ur nose piercing photo
This is a request from ur new friend
send me ur response at tape1631@yahoo.com
- From: mangesh (@ 61.1.146.180)
on: Wed Sep 29 23:27:57 EDT 2004
hi all
i want to know one thing
and that is
do the heroines actually pierce their nose
because u can not see any hole in their nose after they remove the jewellery
do they wear fake nose pin
if any body could help me
- From: abcd (@ mailrelay.infotechfl.com)
on: Thu Oct 14 16:44:17
some heroines definitely have their noses pierced, like Juhi, Sonali Bendre, Moonmoon Sen, Rati Agnihotri, Rekha, Shobana, Revathi....
You will never find Moonmoon Sen and Rati Agnihotri without the nose studs. But for others, closeup views show the piercing holes. Juhi, Sonali, Shobana has prominent piercing holes, visible from quite a distance.
Tell your friend about this topic
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